This is just a vent really, I have posted in here as I don't want any "just let him cry it out" comments.
My little man has just turned one and is still not sleeping through the night. There was 3 nights that he didn't wake for a feed in the night, just a couple of dummy replacements, but it didn't last. Jack goes to bed around 7:30 and is waking two or three times a night, needing boob to go back to sleep. I have tried not giving it to him and just keep going back and forward to his room and patting him on the bum until he goes to sleep, this does take a while longer, so I usually just give in and give him boob. He is also waking for the day between 4 and 5am...which is just waaaayyyy to early!! I would be quite happy to co-sleep but DS just doesn't want to, he doesn't seem to like it, he gets really restless and whingy, I think he likes his own space in his cot, he has never really liked co-sleeping even as a newborn baby.
I have a DH, but he is not at all supportive of my gentle parenting methods, he thinks I am spoiling DS and keeps telling me to "just let him cry". When I say I don't want to let him cry he tells me I am just making it worse for myself and he rolls over and goes to sleep. He will get up in the early morning with him though, which I appreciate.
The Inlaws were staying here for the w/end for jack's b/day and they were telling me the whole time how spoilt DS was, just because I pick him up when he is upset and I spend lots of time kissing and cuddling him....now I know why DH is such a hard arse...MIL has pretty much no maternal instincts at all and doesn't show much affection..even though she's had three kids.
DS does usually have two really good day sleeps, which I am thankful for, but I am starting to feel like he is never going to sleep through the night. I'm not even asking for 12 hours, I'd be deliriously happy with 8.
Sorry if this is all muddled..I just needed to get it off my chest. Thanks for reading.
Hang in there - it sounds like you are doing a great job. You have to be happy with how things are done - it can be very difficult at the best of times with interrupted sleep let alone when people try to provide solutions for you. Trust your instinct and stick with it - it will pass.
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Hope you get some rest soon - it can be exhausting.
I doubt it helps you much Marlene, but you're not alone.
It's a shame your DH can't be more supportive of you, though it is great that he gets up early with him. My DH has to leave for work at 6 so that's not much help for me when DS decides to wake at 5, as he usually does these days.
Pfft to your inlaws too. In the long run I think you're making life easier for yourself by investing in a closer relationship with your children.
OMG you sound like me! Word for word! 'Cept my MIL had 6 kids & my DH thinks DS will either be gay or a mummy's boy.
MIL is not very affectionate. DH was never told he was loved growing up. She says it occasionally after a few drinks now though. My kids have no choice! They are very affectionate & loving, so she has to be. She does like it
All I'm doing is going with the flow ATM. I have 2 waking during the night lately. DD2 has eczema/nappy rash & wakes crying through the night when she wee's, so I have to get up & put more cream on & get her back to sleep, often just as DS is waking up. Or the other way around.
DS sleeps great in our bed. Shame I don't! He hates blankets on, so I always end up uncovered too
I have no idea what you could do. DS has been really clingy & feeling off for 3 or so weeks, so I'm going to start taking some multi vitimins of some sort. I'm lacking in iron atm & since he's been off food for about a week, he probably is too. He's only really been having BM, & if there's not enough in there it might explain alot.
I'm hoping its the answer to all our problems! I might try him on some too, but I don't know much about them yet.
Thanks girls.
Bj...you must be so tired...with two waking at night. Sometimes the waking doesn't bother me but other times I just get exhausted and really upset about it all.
hi marlene
sounds like you're doing an awesome job with your ds. my ds1 was exactly the same at his age. i basically just went with the flow, kept meeting his needs and then magically- he stopped needing the boob at about 14months (just needed a cuddle,back rub) then started sleeping through at about 16months- all with no pushing, no pressure, no controlled crying. now at 18months we still have the odd wake up (teething, nightmares etc.) but it's a lot easier to deal with. just keep doing what you're doing, i think it sounds like you are doing a fantastic job with him xoxo
well im more with your ds as from young i would put them to bed awake and let them cry for 5 or so min and they slept through from a couple months old but have you maybe tried giving him a bottle of water or something instead of booby ...my mum had this problem with my sister..she would go in put the lights on low cuggle her and give her warm milk...then she realised thats prob y she keeps doing it what a life lol....then she decided that when she woke up she would put the light on bright pick her up not cuddle and give her water so suddenly it wasnt that great to wake up and within a couple days she was sleeping through....
Heavenly...I do let him have a whinge or a "protest" but I don't let him cry. I don't want him to go to sleep with the feeling that he has been abandoned, that's why I am posting in the gentle parenting section because I know the mums in here understand.
DS still wakes up during the night - but hasn't woken up for a feed for a long time - he just wakes up.
We used to do the pat pat pat on the bum - god it took forever.. and I hated it - in the middle of winter pattin him on the butt with a big old pregnant belly - arghh.. drove me nuts.
The only explanation we came up with was that he was so restless in his cot that he hit the sides all the time - so he actually got better once we moved him to a toddler bed.
Now he wakes up - but he gets up himself and toddles into our bedroom and jumps in with us. Its much better cos I don't have to get up (its beginning to get cold again!!)
But he is much older than your DS. Sorry I don't have any advice, but I am a fellow waker-upper-er
Just a vent really....
Jack goes to bed around 7:30 and is waking two or three times a night, needing boob to go back to sleep. I have tried not giving it to him and just keep going back and forward to his room and patting him on the bum until he goes to sleep, this does take a while longer, so I usually just give in and give him boob. He is also waking for the day between 4 and 5am...which is just waaaayyyy to early!! I would be quite happy to co-sleep but DS just doesn't want to, he doesn't seem to like it, he gets really restless and whingy, I think he likes his own space in his cot, he has never really liked co-sleeping even as a newborn baby.
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