Me again

[Smoke Jaguar]

Phew, Ryn, I thought you'd taken exception to me! I was at pains to get you on side
I definitely know that it's not ideal for you to be up at ridiculous times in the night with a wakeful baby, especially if DH is doing his best to wash his hands of anything to do with dealing with it. My DP gets frustrated when DS isn't having a good night, and I feel (cos everything seems so much more dramatic and hopeless at night) that he is blaming me, somehow. His excuse for not helping is that he doesn't have boobs and he can never get him to sleep anyhow (not true, by the way...he's done it before!). If he's going to be like that, I'd rather be strung out and deal with DS in a more sensitive fashion than DP would!
Baby-lead is fine, if baby isn't leading up the path to insanity and sheer exhaustion.
I've thought of something else. It might not be your thing, but it might be worth a shot. Vetiver essential oil, a drop rubbed into feet, is said to work for keeping you asleep. Valerian oil to knock you out, Vetiver to keep you asleep. And Frankincense for sweet dreams. You could use that blend in a massage oil before bed, or just the vetiver to keep baby asleep once asleep. It's a bit out there for some people. I love my oils!
ETA: DP wasn't as responsive to DS for the first 5-6 months, either, but I bided my time, cos I knew that as soon as DS became more engaging, DP would get sucked right in. He did - when they seek out daddy and take more interest in daddy, usually daddy reciprocates. I put it down to evolution. After 6 months, baby is more aware of daddy, because if daddy's just gonna take off and start another cave family, why get emotionally invested? And daddies are probably wired to think from cavetimes 'what if I go and get killed on that next bison hunt, best not to get too involved with anyone and break their hearts'...or something like that. I'm being silly now, but with a basis in evolutionary theory! DH won't be able to resist DS soon enough, Ryn