Well I've got 2 heads then too! Be stuffed if I was going to rock, pat, sing, dance whatever at 3am!
What bothered me the most was the sleep books. ie - Settle baby and leave the room, if baby wakes go in and pat etc etc etc. Well, I never left the room for the first step. I couldn't see the point of trying to get a baby to sleep for 2 hours - we gave it 30 mins, then would try again in another 30 mins. It did my head in and made me me like a failure so I wrote my own rules.
The point I was trying to get across the Ryn (without scaring the crap out of her!), was that sometimes there are no answers......
I made my own rules, and they suited me and that is just fine to do that.

2 headed mummies that don't pat babies and croon delightful ditties for hours at 2am - stand up and be counted....we know you're out there!

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