Hun, I highly recommend Elizabeth Pantley's books - No Cry Sleep Solutions. She gives you lots of ideas to try with the thought that you may find one or two that work for you and fit in with your paretnting style. They all focus on not letting the baby cry. I haven't got it all sorted yet, but I love it when I try something from her books and it works.

Keep in mind with all advice & tips that you are given, that if it doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't the right thing for you to be doing. Parent from an intuitive level, do whatever works for you & bubs and you'll be doing it "right".

Oh and there is not such thing as "should" when it comes to babies! Stop listening to the Should Police and you'll be much, much happier!!