No cry sleep solution sleep school

[Spring Angel]

Marydean: I hear you girl. DS started getting his bottom teeth at about 51/2 months and his sleeping went out the window. He now wakes 3 hourly on the dot for a feed and it is driving me bonkers. Sometimes it takes 30 mins to 45 mins to settle him but luckily most times he will go back to sleep straight away. I was getting so tempted by the sleep school option also and after a really bad night last week (he was basically awake from midnight until 4.00am) I told DH I was going to control cry. Well in the light of day I of course changed my mind and so we are just persisting with the gentle parenting and rocking, shhing, cuddling, feeding to sleep.

It is bloody tough, but I just thought I'd let you know you aren't alone. To make matters worse he cat naps during the day and we rarely get more than 45 mins out of him. I have tried to resettle him over and over but to no avail. We have decided this week that the dummy has to go. If he is going to learn to settle, we want him to do it with comfort from us not another sleeping aid that continually falls out. His first sleep this morning was a struggle but thankfully he eventually nodded off after much rocking and singing.

I have a copy of 'The no cry sleep solution' on hold at my local library so I'll let you know if I come up with any magical cure after reading it.

Spring xx

[Willow]

Willow, I just have to wow, I have heard nothing bad things about Tricillian (Penrith)
Tell me what are they like as far BFIng to sleep etc?

Don't know FJ, have never Bfed my babies to sleep so never even came up. I know they do suggest a top up feed if a baby isn't settling after a while, but they generally recommend the feed/play/sleep routine during the day. When we went DS was about 4 months and they encouraged feeding on demand overnight.

And like I said, MY experience with this particular nurse/middy/LC was very positive, I can't speak for anyone else's experiences and won't get into a debate about how 'evil' sleep schools are. I think every parent should do what works for them - for us, this was a great experience and helped to rebuild a lot of the confidence I had lost.

[*Efjay*]

My only expreience of them is what my local ABA group goes on about. so really I haven't anything but gossip really to go on, so it was nice to read such a positive experience.

[Willow]

Hmmmmm, interesting - maybe I'll have to set em straight FJ

I actually spoke to our nurse about this, how they get so much bad press and a lot of it is left over from the 'bad old days' of cc'ing etc. Things are very different these days from what she tells me (although she was telling me that some staff are a bit behind the times and she thinks that they need to adopt a more uniform approach).

[*Efjay*]

yep, you do that because I doubt any of them have actually been either LOL

[Janie]

LOL FJ

I have just been to a day stay last week, after resisting 'sleep school' for many months. I bit the bullet and went because DS was screaming when going to sleep, no matter how much we tried to comfort him. He wouldn't cosleep anymore or anything!

They were fantastic. You stay in the room with your bub the whole time until they're asleep. If they are crying, you pick them up, if you are uncomfortable at any time, you pick them up. They encourage you to leave them in the cot if they are settled, as the idea is to get the babies to self-settle, but if the baby is unhappy, then you are encouraged to soothe it. They are very keen on working out a plan that they mother is totally comfortable with, and can continue on at home with, without that extra support. It was explained to all the mums why controlled crying is bad for babies, although I already knew that from BB . They didn't encourage a BF during the night at DS's age, but said that sometimes it's what's needed to settle a baby. At the end of the day, it was up to the mum to do what she was happy with. They did say that some babies are just not going to be 'good' sleepers, and that you can force them to fit into a mould.

I am so pleased that I went, already things are so much better in this household. DS takes awhile to go to sleep, but there are almost no tears, which seems like a miracle! I don't expect him to become a wonderful sleeper, but it's nice that he is happier.

[monnie]

That's wonderful Janie!

Well done!