LOL FJ

I have just been to a day stay last week, after resisting 'sleep school' for many months. I bit the bullet and went because DS was screaming when going to sleep, no matter how much we tried to comfort him. He wouldn't cosleep anymore or anything!

They were fantastic. You stay in the room with your bub the whole time until they're asleep. If they are crying, you pick them up, if you are uncomfortable at any time, you pick them up. They encourage you to leave them in the cot if they are settled, as the idea is to get the babies to self-settle, but if the baby is unhappy, then you are encouraged to soothe it. They are very keen on working out a plan that they mother is totally comfortable with, and can continue on at home with, without that extra support. It was explained to all the mums why controlled crying is bad for babies, although I already knew that from BB . They didn't encourage a BF during the night at DS's age, but said that sometimes it's what's needed to settle a baby. At the end of the day, it was up to the mum to do what she was happy with. They did say that some babies are just not going to be 'good' sleepers, and that you can force them to fit into a mould.

I am so pleased that I went, already things are so much better in this household. DS takes awhile to go to sleep, but there are almost no tears, which seems like a miracle! I don't expect him to become a wonderful sleeper, but it's nice that he is happier.