Thanks so much everyone. Well after I wrote that last post she gave up and went down easily on the next try so was in bed by 9.30pm again. It just seems every night we try for ages and it wakes her up more so then we have to have a break where she's awake for 1/2hr until she gets tired again and we try again. I hope this is ok and she's not just going to get used to doing that.
We had a pretty similar night to the night before after she finally went down. Woke up 2.5hrs later and ended up in bed with us for the rest of the night just bc we kept falling asleep while she was feeding. Really have to try and stay awake!

One positive thing I can say is that for the last month she hasn't actually gone back to sleep feeding like she used to and we have been up in the night rocking sometimes for hours at a time BUT the last 2 nights we haven't had to get out of bed at all!! Not sure if it's related but even if she hasn't been sleeping long b/w wake-ups I am a lot more rested for not having to get out of bed!

And for the last 4 nights I have sometimes heard her wake in the night (and actually wake right up) sometimes if she's next to me even and be kicking around and rolling everywhere and then all of a sudden just roll towards me cuddle up and go to sleep. Now this is bloody amazing. She has NEVER put herself back to sleep! I don't know why she's started this though. Maybe it's the cosleeping? We've only started doing that more regularly in the last couple of weeks as she's had a cold and was miserable and we found she slept better with me. I don't really want to keep cosleeping though bc there's not enough room and DH ends up getting kicked out. I don't know how one little baby can take up so much room!! I like her to start the night in her own cot (which is right next to our bed anyway) bc I like the time to snuggle and talk with DH nd I also don't want to have to go to bed at the same time as her every night! I do enjoy the early morning cuddles though. Maybe tonight I'll sit up and feed her for the first wake-up and put her back in her cot then which means I'll be awake more but then on the next wake-up she can stay in bed with me so I get more sleep. Then gradually as she gets better I can put her back in bed for more and more sleeps iykwim.

Thanks so much everyone for all your support! When I was fed up last night and came and read your response it got me back on track and ready to start again. Exactly what I needed

Michelle- That's what we did too! We actually started the bedtime routine a couple of weeks ago bc we thought it would be better to get her used to it so she knew when sleep was coming and had a better idea of what we wanted her to do iykwim? And actually since we started it she has been easier to get to sleep at night (just not put down!) but now it's harder again bc we're trying to get rid of the rocking, lol.