Are we doing the wrong thing?

[boomba]

This is so like DS1 its uncanny. He would wake and trash around but fell back to sleep. I would just pat his back or put my hand on him somewhere so he knew I was there.....he was still in our bed.

Good luck hun your doing a wonderful job...I think as long as you are there with her and not just leaving her to cry alone she will be ok x

[sloane]

it sounds like you're doing a great job...i figure, they get so used to feeding to sleep that there's going to be an adjustment period & if you feel like it's the right thing, then keep doing it. i can't believe how much her sleeps have improved - that's fantastic - you're obviously doing something right!! i reckon marcellus is right & there's no need to overthink this - just keep doing what you're doing & trust your instincts to know when she needs a cuddle & when she's settling herself

PS i know i've said it before, but you sooooo give me hope that there's sleep to be had in the future!!

[Mak]

Heaven - you are the expert on your DD - trust yourself and stick with your gut feeling! Don't beat yourself up!!!! xx

[Ginger]

does she go back to sleep quicker if you pull her into you and kind of spoon her? i do this with ds2 when i don't want to bfeed him back to sleep and it works wonders.
also remember that there's a huge difference between a protest whinge and a distressed cry.

[Heaven]

Thank you everyone! You've made me feel so much better! You're all right of course

olive & ginger- nope, I can't touch her, she pushes me away or kicks me and gets more upset, lol. Maybe she does jut want to be left to her own devices.

sloane- I'm glad I can give you hope! I remember feeling hopeless and like no one had ever had a baby that slept as badly as my DD but now I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Not much longer and you will too!!

[Olive]

DD does that too pushes me away... though ive found holding hands works excepts she holds on very tight to make sure i dont go

[sneakysparkle]

Heaven youre doing an awesome job hun xo