Are we doing the wrong thing?

[Ginger]

does she go back to sleep quicker if you pull her into you and kind of spoon her? i do this with ds2 when i don't want to bfeed him back to sleep and it works wonders.
also remember that there's a huge difference between a protest whinge and a distressed cry.

[Heaven]

Thank you everyone! You've made me feel so much better! You're all right of course

olive & ginger- nope, I can't touch her, she pushes me away or kicks me and gets more upset, lol. Maybe she does jut want to be left to her own devices.

sloane- I'm glad I can give you hope! I remember feeling hopeless and like no one had ever had a baby that slept as badly as my DD but now I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Not much longer and you will too!!

[Olive]

DD does that too pushes me away... though ive found holding hands works excepts she holds on very tight to make sure i dont go

[sneakysparkle]

Heaven youre doing an awesome job hun xo

[OceanPrincess]

Heaven you're doing a great job - you've been given some great advice there, just wanted to add my vote of encouragement

I think you hit the nail on the head when you yourself said:

Eventually goes to sleep but sometimes it has taken up to an hour!! The crying she does is loud but I don't feel like it's a distressed, sad, upset cry. It's like she's angry with us. She wants to be fed or rocked but we're not giving it to her. Eventually she realizes she will have to go to sleep on her own and she does.

Listen to yourself hun

It might take up to an hour now... but in a week it might take half an hour... and a week later it might take ten mins... and then soon she might not even stir at all

[Ginger]

another thing that worked with my ds1 was giving him some cows milk in one of those tommee tippee closer to nature bottles (a lot like a nipple)