Wow thanks ladies! - who knows maybe in my sleep deprived state i read about 12 week magical change in my imagination??

Liz - DD does fall asleep (and i mean dead to the world asleep!) while feeding but as soon as i put her down she wakes up! - I have also tried co-sleeping with her and she then thinks its conversation time for her and mummy

sweetpea - I have a HAB carrier which on a good day DD will enjoy being in but then other days she screams as soon as i put her in - I am going to see if i can maybe hire a hammock (no-one i know has one i could borrow) and see how that goes for her. - Does anyone know up to what weight the hammocks can be used cause DD is already 6.8kg (she's my buddah bubba ) so im hoping she won't be too heavy for it?

You are all right and i need to do what works for me and bub and stop worrying about what others *think* i'm doing right/wrong. - I think because the MCHN was one of the ppl who said "Oh you're going to have problems down the track if you keep rocking her to sleep - just put her in her bassinette and let he cry for a little bit, it doesn't do them any harm" i figured it is was coming from a health "professional" i must listen and try to change things....but i am going to keep going with what works for me and bubs and bugger anyone who tells me different - at the end of the day if i am "building a rod" then I'm the one who has to deal with it, not them

Thanks again for your advice and support , i knew BB ladies would be able to give me some suggestions/advice to try!