Sorry have been MIA!

Well I am happy to say that things have improved dramatically and Lily's mum, it worked using your techique - she did (and still does) grizzle initally when i put her down but i dont let her get to the distressed stage - i also bought a fischer price peek-a-boo water soother thingy which attaches to the side of the cot ( i have moved her out the bassinette and into her cot!) and when i put her down in her cot i turn the soother on and it lasts for 18min (has music lights and movement) which gives enough time for her to settle - so, so far so good!! - And yes, i agree with your comment about things being lost in translation as your method did work for me (with a few adjustments to accommodate my DD) and i NEVER let her get distressed - so Thank you!

The method i used really doesn't make the baby distressed. I wouldn't have been able to do it if it did, because listening to my bubba cry makes me feel physically ill! I guess you'll just have to trust me on that one as a lot is lost in my translation. It sounds very similar to what anna used and i found exactly the same thing, lily will settle with cheek to cheek and gentle whispering. Maybe Anna explained it better?
I would love to hear how you went Ella Bear