who doesn't like to use controlled crying?

[~Belinda~]

Well said Maz. I hope Mat is going well

[blackbird]

Hang in there eveningstar. My 18 mth old is still learning to settle himself. CC is just not me - thr thought of it makes me feel ill - so I've been using ideas from Pinky, Elizabeth Pantley and the Queen Elizabeth Centre site. My little fella now strokes his cousins' heads when they are crying after just a couple of weeks of me helping to soothe him that way!

You have to go with what feels right in your gut/heart and from what I can gather (and I've done a lot of reading/internet trawling) there is no quick fix and every baby is different and will be different from time to time.

Another great book - The Wonder Weeks - explains periods when everything goes completely haywire due to developmental leaps.

Sleepy thoughts heading to your house....

[maz]

Hon - I just read your post before mine (I missed it) im so gald that it is working for you...and to me your not CC Madeleine...your showing her that she is still safe. Its exactly what we do with Mateauz...its amazing what a little love and tenderness brings to the heart isnt it little steps lead to big things in the end

Mateauz is going great guns...thanks for asking about him..he is such a charmer and I thank the big man upstairs everyday that he is still part of our lives.

[*EJ*]

I definately believe in the 'you have to teach the bub how to sleep', I feel that's what i did with my DS and we rarely have sleep issues. I had my little way of settling him but insisting it was sleep time and it worked for us. I always showed him love and kindness and i believe now bed and sleep is a happy place for him, he doesn't get aprehensive going towards the bedroom.

I have read a few of Pinky McKays books and i went to a sleep settling seminar back when my DS was a couple of months old. It all made a lot of sense to me and i only wish i went before my DS was born so the first few weeks were a bit more settled. All good though we got there and i'm more prepared for 2nd time around now (when that happens).

I'm glad you're having some success, it really does take some time and the sleep deprivation really makes it difficult to have the energy to do what you know needs to be done.