thanks ladies for your replies.
I really needed the reassurance - I was feeling like a complete failure after our "no-nap" Tuesday (which ended with Dad putting her to bed - of course).

Then, just now, she was fighting me - every time I took the boob out she would cry and fight, so we went into her room, and had a cuddle, and 3 times I tried to put her in the cot, and she would arch and kick. But then I heard DH come home, so I was just going to put her down and get him to put her to sleep, but instead she looked up at me, said a word or two, then shut her eyes and went to sleep, just like that! Boy am I confused!!! I saw one of my friends today who had just been to Karitane, and I was almost thinking of the same, and then this! go figure!

Anyway, I do try not to worry about how much/ how long etc, but it's more that I KNOW she is tired, but she just keeps fighting it, and that's what I find the hardest to deal with, when I know that she needs to have a sleep, I can see/hear/feel it, but she just WONT. It is reassuring to know that others bubs of similar age are only having one boob-induced nap too.

thanks ladies!