I put this post up several months ago:

https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...either-158432/

and things are still just terrible.

Day care is fine, they get her to sleep at day care. She even puts herself to sleep at day care. WTF???

But at home, NO WAY.
At first I thought we were making progress, and she did put herself to sleep a few times, but then she worked out what was going on, and would begin fighting if she thought we were even heading for a nap, just beginning the first stage of the getting ready. She just arches and rolls and thrashes and screams. I have tried patting her, but although it worked the first time, now it doesn't - I can't physically hold her still as she fights and resists me.

DH can rock her to sleep - his arms are bigger and stronger than mine. sometimes I struggle to hold her squirming so much I am concerned I will drop her.

why T F won't she have a sleep? She did not have a nap at all today

Oh, and the only way I can get her to sleep is to BF her. She is almost 12 months old. I feel like I have completely stuffed up and created a baby who won't sleep unless in mums arms on mum's boob. Even when we co-sleep she needs to suck to sleep, I cant even just pat her, where as before at least I could pat her if we were co-sleeping. This is getting RIDICULOUS!!!!!

sorry for the rant.