I agree with you actually Dach. Maybe that's why I needed to vent, coz it was bursting to come out of me.. I probably should have let it out with the nurse. I guess I feel because I've only been a mum for 2 months that I don't have any 'real' backing for my case. I'm afraid of just being seen as a new mum that doesn't know any better. I also need to find a way of saying things that I don't sound defensive iykwim? I had the same dilemma with cloth nappies.. I faced all kinds of criticism when I was pregnant talking about cloth nappies, so I learnt to just keep my mouth shut. Now that I've been using them full time with no probs, I'm happy to tell everyone about them, regardless of the reaction. Maybe once I've seen a few more results of my gentle parenting I'll feel ready to defend it?