Hey Ryn, your DS sounds like a brat! When was the last time you gave him a good belting?

I'm sorry that you are getting inundated with unwanted advice and finding it hard to bite your tongue. If anything helps, there is a whole army of supporters here that think you are doing a great job and maybe we can help to counteract the bad vibes from the rest of the well-meaning but differently-parenting people out there.

Keep doing whatever works for you.