How true Bridie! The proof truly is in the pudding! people often do comment how I manage to have such a "co-operative" 4yo when it comes to bedtime. He insists on going to bed as soon after dinner as possible, if not before! And once he is in his bed he rarely gets up... not that it bothers us if he does because it means he needs us! But my point is that he is the product of co-sleeping/non CC. Whereas my DD didn't spend as much time sleeping with us and back then (1994) I didn't know the damage CC can do so just blindly followed the advice of people who suggested CC... and as a result (I think) she was a terribly insecure sleeper that never really settled into her own bed until she was about 5yo.

My 15 month old sleeps with us from when he wakes up naturally in his cot each morning, usually at about 4/5am these days... he is brought in immediately. And I think that he too will eventually feel secure enough to want his own space in his own time. it's all about creating trust isn't it?