Before we told people, for a meal out I asked DH if he wanted to share a bottle with me, he said he couldn't because he was driving, so we both ordered fruit drinks.
At home, I'd pour myself a glass then just sip it, if you re-fill before everyone gets empty then no-one notices you've not been touching the stuff.
I had one night where I had about 4 glasses post-O put pre-implantation (Eurovision), and another night where I had 2 glasses post-implantation, but you are allowed a small glass a day! So you can just nurse the one glass all night.
Also DH and I swap glasses, so people just see me, the drunkard, with an empty glass. If you can act a bit tipsy it helps the illusion!
Saturdays you can be nursing a hangover from the Friday so can't face alcohol, and I know I also used the medication one on DH's family before we told them. Of course SiL guessed the second I asked for decaff and said I'd rather not have the wine, but didn't say that she knew until we told them! No-one else realised and they'd all seen me drinking something different to them a few times.
Oh Ryn I love the one about swapping glasses with DH! Now if only I can get my DH to start drinking wine....don't think I'd be believable if I was holding an empty beer bottle
This was a huge issue for me when I fell pregnant as I never go without a drink at family/social do's (I drank throughout TTC as I didn't/don't think a few drinks is a problem when TTC). I have now resorted to taking drinks that are offered and sititng on the one drink all night (then tipping it down the sink/toilet at any chance). Making an excuse can work once or twice but when it happens multiple times it's a bit sus if you usually alway drink! As for the wedding, I would take one drink but not drink it - no one notices once you actually have a drink in your hand. Also, one glass of wine over 5 hours with food won't hurt IMO.
Another option is to just have one and literally nurse it all night. Whenever somebody is waving around a refill just raise your glass and turn away to talk to somebody else. I did this at an awards dinner last Saturday night and it worked really well.
great thread this one! My DP plays football and we are constantly at functions where I usually drink (DP doesn't drink so I have to do us proud and be the big drinker), but this year i haven't wanted to as we are TTC. So I've told the people at the club that DP has banned me from drinking as I flirt too much when i drink and he doesn't like it. Funny thing is, no one has actually questioned me about this! DP has had a lot of fun with this as well.
Accept a half a glass of something then continue to nurse it (the same glass) all evening while DP/DH secretly supplies you with softies. If you talk loudly and act giddy, then everyone will think you've drunk several glasses...!
This is crucial in my family as we ALWAYS have champagne at EVERY family gathering...!
We went to a family wedding when I was about 9 weeks pg, we hadn't told anybody. We were seated on a table with the in-laws but as it was a Sunday wedding I just kept up that I had to work in the morning and didn't want a hangover and one of us had to be able to drive home safely. It worked, no one questioned me or suspected a thing.
I had a friend who was sus that i was preg, so she invited me around for a bbq, and offered me a glass of wine...She never normally does this. I was so Peed off inside!! As i know she did this to see if i was preg; she knew i wouldnt touch alcohol if i was. I told her that i was on medications.
Ally, I'd have taken it and surrepstitiously(?sp) fed it to her plants just to pee her off in return! But then I'm mean like that. I forgot to mention feeding the plants is quite a good trick, better than exchanging glasses with DH because then you go from full to a bit gone to halfway down... so it does look like you are drinking. You can only really do that outside or in a pot-plant lover's house. Or if you spend a lot of time in the kitchen near the sink. I know it's a waste, but it's a good trick!
I am not a wine drinker at all, I like the mudslide/hot sex type choc and milk liqeurs, so just walking around all night drinking choc topping in milk is totally foolproof!!, not to mention that all that milk (skim of course) can only be good for a bubba who is just starting to develope bones
Apart from that, I would go to woolworths, and buy some of that non-alcoholic wine (called mason i think??), it is with all the mineral water and cordials etc.
A glass of that not only looks identical to alcoholic wine, but tastes much the same too.
And I can nearly guraentee that non of your wine drinking friends will tell the difference, and if anyone does guess and asks why you are drinking the non-alcoholic version,,,,,,Tell them "gees, I never noticed that,,,,no wonder why i am tipsy yet!!
I think that the antibiotics excuse is a dead give-a-way that you are pregnant. No one ever really stops drinking when they are on antibiotics (at least no one I know does) it's a huge red flag that you're pregnant.
The best two options are to either pretend you aren't feeling well (ie: you have a really bad headache or an upset stomach that you don't want to make worse with alcohol, or even better you over-indulged the night before and can't stomach the thought of another sip of alochol) or you pretend to drink.
I have been on two stagettes where someone was pregnant (at one it was the bride at the other it was a bridesmaid) and didn't want anyone to know. We successfuly convinced everyone they were drinking.
The bridesmaid was easy, she just drank "rum and cokes" without the rum all night. Then at the wedding she held a half glass of wine that her husband took occasionaly sips out of to slightly change the volume. No one suspected.
The bride was a bit harder because people wanted to buy her drinks and shots. We made sure we kept them coming so no one had a chacne to buy her real ones. We had different fruit juice shots and chocolate milk shots with whipped cream. We filled an empty vodka bottle with cranberry juice and people thought she was drinking cranberry and vodka.
The non-alcoholic wine or ciders would be a great idea.
I stopped drinking a year ago with the excuse that I was trying to lose weight (which I was and i did) and at first everyone was convinced I was pregnant. They soon realized I was not and now no one expects me to drink anymore.
Hi gals
One of my friends, used to just hold onto a glass of wine or champs for a little while, and get her dh to take a sip or two, and then she would just 'leave' the glass somewhere and pick it up later to make it look like she was having another glass. All this was because she too was the known 'wine head' in our circle!
Twin sister, having actually only once drunk on antibiotics, I can tell you right now the reason people don't! It's a killer! I've not needed to take them for years, but I'd steer clear of them now because I couldn't drink on them. Wow, most people would just steer clear of the alcohol for a few weeks, but we've just started 9 gallons of wine brewing that should be ready about the same time as the baby, so that should let you know how much of an alcoholic I am! (And DH is.) Also, you can easily tell the lo/no alc wines and beers. But I do drink quite a bit, so it might just be the people who like wine who can tell that.
I need an excuse!! I am in the 2ww at the moment and we are seeing friends of DH's on the weekend and I don't want to drink but she will no something is up. She knows I went off the pill and I just keep saying we aren't trying, its just preperation, but she keeps asking!! What I have she wants (if that makes sense). So I need an excuse for why I am on antibiotics!?!?!?!?!
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