ds1 & 2 are 18months apart. It was full on in the begining but they are best of friends now at age 5 1/2 and 4. The good thing is they are into the same type of things at the same times, toys etc.
ds3 will be a bigger gap, when he arrives they will be 6 & 4 1/2. I am looking forward to the fact the older boys can feed themselves, TT, etc and actually want to help out a bit when bub comes.
So i see beneifits in both a bigger and smaller gaps. In some ways a bigger gap i feel will make it harder, like family trips etc trying to find something that all 3 will be enjoying, but on the other hand we certainly were not ready to have fallen pregnant when ds2 was only 9months like we did with ds1!
me and my sister are 3ys 9months apart and were fairly close as children, even more close as adults. There is 5yrs 9m between me and my brother but we are not as close.... i too think its not the age difference its the personalities that make the bonds.
Ds and dd are 2 yrs and 3 months apart and I think that's perfect. Dd understood enough about the baby, was tt, sleeping still in the day and could get wipes etc. I can see they're going to be close because they adore each other already (poor ds wants to be running around already though).
My older sister and I are 18 mths apart which was ace and we're super close. My little sister was three years after me, then five years and then my brother. My poor brother was pretty left out of games and we all left home when he was still at school, but now we're all close.
I think personality has more to do with it than gap or gender tbh.
I always wanted the kids close together life had aother plans but that being said I love love the gap we have 3 years 1 month I keep trying to convince hubby for another I have oh about 4 months to get pg to have the same gap again
DS1 & DS2 are 2yrs apart and i have really enjoyed it and enjoy it now seeing them play together. While pregnant we didin't talk too much about bubs until he was almost here as DS1 didn't really understand too much about what was going on. He knew i had a bit tummy but a bit too little to know that a baby was in there. They are really good mates now and i love it.
I fell pregnant with DD when DS2 was 13 months old, it wasn't really planned that way but i haven't found the age differences to be a challenge it's more the fact that i'm caring for 3 children that is the real challenge. I look at DD now as she approaches the age DS2 was when i fell pregnant and see how much of a real little man he still was. I think most of the hard work was done with DS2 while i was pregnant and once DD arrived he was settled, sleeping, eating, playing a happy little man that knew his place in the family.
Being pregnant with DD was a lot of fun with DS1 as he knew a lot more and understood what was going on. Both boys adore their sister and her face lights up whenever she sees them.
Workload aside with 3 under 5 years i love the dynamics between my children.
Having said that a friend from mothers group has the exact same difference between her boys as i do and they have real jealously issues. They are more so with her DS1. I think it has more to do with her DS1's personality but i'm really not sure, it's been that way since his brother arrived really. I'm not sure how different our parenting styles are but i've always encouraged kindness, thoughtfulness and gentelness with all my children but maybe a lot of how age gaps and siblings in general are accepted has a lot to do with personality!?
There's 3 years between my sister and I, and at times it seemed huge. Now that we're both older and are mums its OK.
6 years from me to my brother (very big), and then another 2 years to my other brother.
My brothers are really close.
There's going to be 19 months between DD and Beez, if all goes to plan. Scary thought, but I know I can handle it.
As a mum - my girls are 15mths apart and i love it, yes it was hard work at the start but DD1 was quite a clever girl and was very helpful from the start and was great at amusing her sister, they can be the best of friends and the worst of enemies but i think that goes with every relationship and i don't think age has much to do with it.
We had planned to wait until DD1 was about 2 but i'm so glad we didn't, i am getting TTing out of the way all in 1 shot as DD2 wants to copy her sister, they both enjoy the same toys (less $$ spent) and clothes are so easy to pass down just a yr behind.
As a sibling - bro 1 was born 4 days before my 1st b'day, we have a love hate relationship - we were very close until we got to about 8+ then i was the protector and he was the annoying younger brother, then we hit teen years and we were so competetive and annoying to each other, now as parents we love each other dearly and have finally realised we have our own lives and we wont always agree but we are there for each other.
I also have 4 younger brothers, the youngest being 9 the oldest of those being 16 and it's great have such a big age gap - the 9 & 11yr ols live with dad and we get along brilliantly, take them places, they love our girls and being called uncle and bgeing spoilt by their cool ( ) older sister.
The other 2 live with mum in Adelaide so we don't always see them but it's great knowing we are there to teach them lessons and toughen them up when mum won't, they also ask us for advice they may not discuss with mum IYKWIM.
My DD's are just under 18months apart and I love it DD1 is an fantastic little girl so I have not had any troubles with her and DD2 while a big mummy's girl she loves her big sister, they play really well and DD1 likes to mother DD2.
I would like to wait till DD1 is close to starting kinder before we start trying for #3. That way I can give the new bub some one on one time like both my girls got. In saying that I am already feeling that want to start trying but with a holiday to Vegas planned for May I will be waiting till after that at least.
First 2 close together, and third with a bit of a gap so older 2 can be little helpers. If the plan is only for 2, maybe keep the gap, so you don't have all the "excitement" too close together.
In other words, I think you should start TTC around JJ's birthday. We need more kids on our side
Also, don't count your chickens before they hatch re: sex missy.
There is 2 years 11 days between DD1 and DD2 which is a nice gap for us. DD1 ended up toliet training when dd2 was only little which was challenging running around with a potty in one hand and a bubby in a sling . They are great friends now. There will be almst 3.5years between DD2 and this new bub so will be interesting to see how it goes. DD1 is very excited about the new baby and wants to help and hold her etc, Im sure this age gap will have a new set of challenges like bubs getting into the older girls things and destroying them.
There is 2.5 years between my brother and I and we got on well as kids, there is 5.5 years between my sister and I and we weren't close as kids but have a great relationship now. I think personality also is a factor not only age
Arrgghh... how I wish to be in so much control of my fertility that I could plan or choose the age gap between my kids . We are looking at a minimum 3yrs 3 months. I am 13 months younger than my sister and we don't get on well at all. Our closest family has 4 years between their girls and it works great for them. I really think it is individual.
Hugs Maruschke, I know exactly how you feel when plans and fertility dont coincide.
DS1 and 2 are exactly two years apart and its great. It was really tough for the first year but is now easy. My kids are so close, it is amazing to watch. We planned on having 2.5yrs between DS2 and Baby 3, but that didnt work out so I hope a larger age gap will be ok if Im lucky enough to have another.
My brother and I are 2y4m apart... we were really close as kids, always playing together in the backyard. Once I moved out of home we drifted apart, but have definitely become closer again in the last few years.
My DSDs are 4y5m apart. I obviously don't know much about the time when DSD2 was a newbie, but watching them grow up together, I think the age gap is more and more showing now that they are older. DSD1 is 16 and a half and definitely on the adult side of things now. DSD2 is just 12 and will still play with the little kids etc at parties.
They have always bickered and fought, but that is because their personalities are so very different. They do get on, can do things together without arguing... I've noticed DSD2 asking DSD1 on advice about friends / school / boys etc lately which is really nice to see.
I know it doeant really relate to the OP's question
However I am always getting now a days " wow, now that's a gap "
My DD is going to be 4 months of 21 when the twins are born - then of course there will be no gap between the twinnies
My sister and I are 12 years apart, and we are really close. So at different times in your childrens lives, they will be close, if you have a big gap or little gap .
DS1 and DS2 are 18 months and 4 days apart. Its hard work at times but I love seeing them play together (when not fighting).
There is 2 years 7 months between me and 1 of my brothers and just 2 months short of 10 years between my other brother and I.
I don't think their is any right or wrong gap its what works for you and also what fate deals you, when TTC DS2 I never imagined getting preg straight away after TTC DS1 for 12 months. All gaps have pros and cons.
My two older boys are 15 months apart, and they are great friends. The twins are 26 months younger than DS2 and they have a great friendship with each other, but less so with the older boys. Maybe because they are twins and they rely on each other more, I don't know, but in my experience I have preferred a smaller gap. IMHO 47 minutes is the best gap between children
I have 4 years and 3 months between DS#1 and DS#1. The gap was not planned this way due my health issues but in the end it has been fabulous. The boys play together (7.5 and 3) pretty well and the only issues we have is if DS#1 wants time by himself. If we had been able to choose we would have gone with a 3 year gap, but the amazing gift in our long gap is the amount of one on one time we get with them at home. If we have a third our gap will hopefully be the same.
I need to say those having trouble conceiving, don't worry about the gap! In the end it really doesn't matter if the grand scheme of trying to make a baby. For those with small gaps I have to say I take my hat off to you to keep up with them!
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I keep trying to convince hubby for another I have oh about 4 months to get pg to have the same gap again 
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. We are looking at a minimum 3yrs 3 months. I am 13 months younger than my sister and we don't get on well at all. Our closest family has 4 years between their girls and it works great for them. I really think it is individual.
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