DS1 & DS2 are 2yrs apart and i have really enjoyed it and enjoy it now seeing them play together. While pregnant we didin't talk too much about bubs until he was almost here as DS1 didn't really understand too much about what was going on. He knew i had a bit tummy but a bit too little to know that a baby was in there. They are really good mates now and i love it.

I fell pregnant with DD when DS2 was 13 months old, it wasn't really planned that way but i haven't found the age differences to be a challenge it's more the fact that i'm caring for 3 children that is the real challenge. I look at DD now as she approaches the age DS2 was when i fell pregnant and see how much of a real little man he still was. I think most of the hard work was done with DS2 while i was pregnant and once DD arrived he was settled, sleeping, eating, playing a happy little man that knew his place in the family.

Being pregnant with DD was a lot of fun with DS1 as he knew a lot more and understood what was going on. Both boys adore their sister and her face lights up whenever she sees them.

Workload aside with 3 under 5 years i love the dynamics between my children.

Having said that a friend from mothers group has the exact same difference between her boys as i do and they have real jealously issues. They are more so with her DS1. I think it has more to do with her DS1's personality but i'm really not sure, it's been that way since his brother arrived really. I'm not sure how different our parenting styles are but i've always encouraged kindness, thoughtfulness and gentelness with all my children but maybe a lot of how age gaps and siblings in general are accepted has a lot to do with personality!?

I also believe that our children choose us