No judgement from me. It sounds like the drinking is affecting more than just ttc. I don't agree that he shouldn't have to give it up unless a doctor says so. If it upsets you or worries you then that should be enough. Have you had much testing yet Hun? Has your DH had a SA done, or is he willing to get that done. Most men find it very confronting (mine certainly did!) but it's the simplest way to find out if there is an issue...all of the testing for women is pretty invasive.