Is it all in my head?

[MissesMac]

My hubby and I have been off contraceptives since March. We had a very early MC in July and AF has been very irregular since then. I have had a sore tummy, cramps, swollen sore boobs and a general 'off' feeling for about a week. I have no idea when AF is due. The first day of my last period was 10 November.

I want to take a test but I'm worried that I'm just manifesting symptoms in my mind because I want to be pregnant. I hate the disappointment and I try that stay positive. I guess I'm just looking for a little support - just a 'hang in there, it'll happen'. I feel like I'm letting down my hubby each month when we're not pregnant, even though he is amazingly supportive and lovely. I guess I'm putting off doing a test as a no is a no - not knowing for sure is a maybe.

Any advice for dealing with the 'head stuff' that comes along with trying for a baby would be really appreciated.

[emmalee86]

I think the more you string yourself along with maybes the worse it will be if it's negative IMO.. I would just do a test.
Although I did three tests over a couple of days and the first two were negative and the third was a positive.. So a negative doesn't always mean a no

It's really hard when you start to 'feel' pregnant but are too scared to commit to the feeling in case your wrong..

I really hope your BFP comes soon!

X

[myturn]

I, on the other hand, am of the don't POAS school of thought. I think if you are constantly testing you are constantly experiencing disappointment and that makes me feel terrible. Plus I don think it's good for my mental health as it's just so depressing. And I am happy to live in the maybe. If AF is going to arrive - she will! In the meantime I can live in the illusion for a little while.

Only you will know what is right for you. There is no correct way, just the way that helps you feel okay.

[beansbeans!]

whether you test is up to you.

But can I just say please do not feel like you are letting anyone down. TTC is hard, there is a reason why they babies are miracles. Even when you time it and chart it, and analyse it, its still a long shot. So you aren't letting anyone down, its not like you can flick a switch and say yep Im pregnant. (cause so many would do that if it were possible)

I say buy a test, a reliable test, a test that tests early. But don't test as soon as you get home. Wait until you feel like you are ready to get the results, then do it.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I had dodgy cycles pre-Liebling and so I didn't test until after my longest cycle for the past 4 cycles.

I was classed as 8w pg from that point. I was only about 6w gone, but it was a nice surprise.

So I'm in the "no test" camp too. I won't test until I'm a week late due to odd cycles anyway.

[MissesMac]

Thanks for all of your replies. Even just sharing my thoughts made me feel better. I guess the hardest thing is not knowing when AF is due - am I a week late today or do I still have a few days to go? Anyway, I've made up my mind to test in the morning and what will be will be 😀

[MissesMac]

So I tested first thing this morning and this is what I saw within about 2 seconds. Needless to say it wasn't all in my head. Very very excited!

[jellybean88]

Wow congratulations!!

[Sterla]

Wow, congratulations!! How exciting!

[emmalee86]

Yay!!! Congratulations mrs Mac!!

[Mrs O'M]

Congratulations!

[beansbeans!]

Congratulations!!!!!! Wishing you a very happy and healthy pregnancy xo

[Joeve]

Yay congrats!!