Hey girls,

thank you sooo much for your advise and i have taken all of it on board. My husband has applied for the defence force and has an interview next month.. very exciting for him as he can use his trade and expand on it and earn great money..
although there wont be much of a point to buy a house straight up because we will be re locating alot (im a daughter of an ex navy guy so im used to it) so we may buy an investment property next year some time..
as for the trying TTC i still havent gotten my period.. havent done a HPT for a week nearly scared to do one haha but im 15 days over due so far.. we decided not to 'try' but not to use protection.. when it happens it does until we are fully wanting to try until then enjoy BD without protection for the first time.

it is hard raven not to get green with envy sometimes.. alot of our friends had had help but like you said you know you can live comfortably and quiet fankly i enjoy the furtniture car etc that we own coz we have worked for it.. and im sure you feel the same

as you have all said there is no right way of going about your plans.. but at least getting a little advise helps to give ideas of possible out comes and approaches out there.
thank you all