My cycles were all over the place when I came off BCP. My first was 56 days!! And I charted from day one too. Anyway, it took 7 cycles before we got pg with our first child, and I am pretty sure that I didn't have a normal cycle until the one that worked. I certainly didn't notice any EWCM until that one.

Vitex may help get your body back on track.

If it's any consolation, I stayed off the pill and used the knowledge I had from ttc to avoid getting pg until we were ready to try for number 2, we got pg first try.

Good luck, and I hope it doesn't take too long for you (though also hope you aren't suffering from first trimester symptoms on your wedding day!)