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[lola]

I have a question that may sound naive but here goes. We are ttc, this is cycle 3 and this time I used opk, it showed I O'd and so we BD'd alot, pre & post O. My af is due on Sun so I tested this am with one of those early detection test and got a BFN. How is it that you can O and have sperm there to meet & greet with some follow up guys for back up and still not be pregnant? I have been pregnant twice before, both times first go with no extra attention like opk. Sadly 1st pregnancy ended 2nd tri, mmc, no cause just wasnt meant. 2nd time our GORGEOUS DD, who is now 18mths. I guess I am anxious because I am 38yrs old soon to turn 39!

Thanks Ladies
Lola

[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

Wow, what a lot of terms I don't understand, hahahahaa!

I don't know if it helps, but I read somewhere that you need at least 3 proper periods before your body is 'receptive' enough to conceive.

Good luck for next time!

[Liz]

There's a lot of factors I think. I think eggs can be pretty particular as to which sperm they let in.. it's not always first in first served LOL. And even if the egg is fertlised, it still has to make the journey down and implant in the uterus, and that's not a certainty either. Then there's the environment within the uterus, can be affected by foods, illness etc, which can make it sperm friendly or non-friendly, and can possibly affect implantation too.

If only it were as easy as sperm meets egg

Good luck with your TTC. Remember tho that even with younger healthy couples it can take 6 months or more of trying to fall pregnant. So don't stress just yet

[Maruschke]

It could be many many things.... maturity of the egg released, whether or not there even was an egg released,the quality of the lining for the fertilised egg to implant in, the acidity and general quality of the cervical mucous at the time of intercourse, the quality of the sperm, whether or not there are enough progressive sperm with no defects, whether or not the sperm can reach the egg (think tubal blockages or endo) etc etc etc. It is a wonder anyone falls pregnant at all!

Most doctors will tell you there is only a 22% chance of falling pregnant each month. TTC takes time. Sit back and enjoy ( or lie back, lol... )

By the way, I am very sorry to hear of your miscarriage . Its a tough thing to go through. My thoughts are with you and your angel bub.

[~Trish~]

I just wanted to add that it may still be too early to get a BFP, even if you used an early detection test. I tested two days before AF was due with DS#2 and got a BFN, I then waited until I was 2 days overdue and finally got a nice strong BFP.

Best of luck

[bon]

I also think it's probably simply too early to get a BFP, even with an early test. In my experience those early tests have never actually given me a BFP any earlier than a standard test has! You just have to give it some time, it is still very early days.

[neekyv]

i've has a fertilised egg- 5 day blastocyst to be precise- put back in and wasnt pregnant- so anything can happen! or not as the case may be!

I wouldnt start to worry yet!

[Amaunet]

I know what you mean? In theory it sounds so simple. egg + sperm = pregnant! I guess there has to be everything "just right" and there is no way to predict which particular cycle will be "the one". I hope this is it for you or it happens soon.

[lola]

Thank you so much for your replys. All very valid considerations, so I just hope in the 2yrs since conceiving our DD my egg quality and "plumbing" has maintained some of its previous good working order . But I guess 2yrs at this end of my reproductive years is along time.

My AF is 1 day late but I feel a tad pmt so I'll just wait a few more days before testing.

Thanks again
Lola

[BeautifulMadness]

lol i was a lil like you. then i did a bit of research and yeah its not as easy as i thought, i just thought the sperm meet the eggy and that was it. but didnt realise that only 50 out of millions of sperm make it to meet the eggy to start with.

[Liviam]

Lola good luck when you test next time. Like everyone has said it is so frustrating that it isn't as easy as sperm + eggy = pregnant. Please feel free to come and join us in the TTC threads. It's great to have some support and to vent to as you go through the diffeerent parts of your cycles.
Best of luck.

[Deltadawn]

Hi Lola. I guess it is just natures way of preventing unwanted pregnancies. Can you imagine if everyone got pregnant every time they had sex during ovulation???

Good luck with your TTC'ing and I hope it happens soon for you.