thread: Gender selection..could this be true??

  1. #1
    elly Guest

    Gender selection..could this be true??

    Hi everyone,

    As we have not had a girl born in my husbands family for generations, we thought we might give the girls a bit of an easier path!!
    If we have another boy that would be great too.

    I have been told by someone that it may increase your chances of conceiving a girl if the male lowers his sperm count an hour (approx) before bd'ing.
    Apparently there are usually more male sperm anyway so it's just a way of "flushing" everything out.
    We will also be doing the timing thing too (2-3 days prior to ovulation).

    Has anyone heard this?? I know it worked for the person who told me about it but she may have had a girl anyway, who knows.

    Any opinions or advice would be greatly appreciated.

  2. #2
    Melinda Guest

    Hi Elly,

    I thought you might like to check out this article - Shettles Method for Gender Selection which discusses the issues that you've raised.


  3. #3
    elly Guest

    Thanks Melinda, i will have a look at that article.

    Also i have just read my post and i don't think it ,makes sense.

    I'm wondering if anyone has heard about the male lowering his sperm count prior to bd'ing.

    Thanks again

  4. #4
    Registered User

    Feb 2004

    Elly I'm not 100% sure but I would have assumed that the total count would be lowered & not necessarily the male sperm. As far as I understood is pretty much 50/50 male & female.

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Oct 2005

    I'm with Sarah_H i thought it would be 50/50. All I know is that the male sperm swims faster and the female sperm lives longer. So if you want a boy you would have to have sex right on ovulation as male sperm would reach there first, however to have a girl you would have to have sex either side of ovulation as they live longer than male sperm and would still be there when you O'd.

    I'm pretty sure this is right. Anyway all the best.


  6. #6
    Registered User

    Feb 2004

    Yup Helen that's the way I heard it too.

  7. #7
    elly Guest

    I have read in the Shettles book that a lower sperm count does favour girls but i have no idea why this would be.

  8. #8
    Registered User

    Oct 2004
    Back in Brisvegas :)

    I have that book at home - 'How to choose the sex of your baby'(mind you, we tried the whole 'girl' way for all of two cycles then decided it was hard enough falling pregnant, let alone trying to encourage the girl sperm to win the race! *L*).

    I too don't really get the whole low sperm count aiding the chances of a girl.

  9. #9
    Registered User

    Feb 2004

    Well Elly I'd have to disagree with Mr (?) Shettles there. My DH has a very very low sperm count & we ended up with a gorgeous baby boy.

  10. #10
    Amanda Mason Guest

    Hi there,

    Ive read that the BOY swimmers are FASTER swimmers and hence reach the egg before the GIRL swimmers, so if your really trying for a girl you should BD ONCE a couple of days before O that way it gives the girl swimmers time to reach the each right on Ovualation... I have no idea if this is true or not

  11. #11
    Registered User

    Sep 2005
    Cambridge Gardens,NSW

    Not that im an expert on all things biological,and if certain things 'work' to make a boy or be it

    But as far as i know,it is always up to the male if it is going to be a girl or boy baby.

    Our eggs are already girls,so depending on what genetic information is passed on in the sperm..the egg with either stay that girl,or change into a boy.

  12. #12
    Registered User

    Aug 2005
    sydney, australia

    I had a similar situation to you Elly, my husbands family was all boys, so i bought the shettles method book, and we tried it and we got our girl!! now we will never know if it was just sheer coincidence or the method but it worked in our favour, they say that you BD up until about 2-3 before you O and then stop as the girl are not as fast a swimmers as the boy but they are more plumper and live longer and can live long enough to reach the egg when its released, but the boys are faster swimmers but die alot quicker, so they generally all are dead by the time the egg has been released!

    hope this helps you out!