I feel like i am ready now, i just want to officially ttc, but hubby and i both put down april as the month to start trying, i know april is not that far away really, but i just cant wait, when i try to talk to him about it he just keeps saying soon, but in the bedroom i get mixed messages.
Im on the pill and most time we double up to be safe and use protection, this last month i was not very consistant with taking the pill and each time we dtd i ask hubby to put one on, he is quite aware of the missing pills yet, declines extra protection, i mean what is up with that, its doing my head in giving me mixed signals.
The original plan was going to be to wait till my lil sis wedding, but her other bridesmaid has stated that she is ttc and not going to stop because of the wedding so i though why should we, so we moved the month up by 6 months.
But i just cant help it i just want to be pregnant, i just want to start trying i feel like i have ants in my pants just wanting it so badly.
The only thing that is stopping hubby atm is that he is out of work, and i know that is a fair call, all the other children were concived when we were financial.
And i know that hubby likes to get me knocked up so thats not his issue, im just being impatient, but i want it so badly.
Thanks for letting me vent or rant, im just slightly confused with hubby and his change of mind in the bedroom, it gets my hopes up.
Im a shocker for waiting to be UTD again....hence why all my kiddies are close
I think you need to talk to your hubby and explain how you feeling and see what he says. Mixed signals will do anyones head in and when its something close to your heart (like making a baby...LOL) you dont want to feel all over the place!
Arhhhhhhhhhhhhh, i just want to silently............ scream.
Now thats thats all over, i got my af on friday and explained to hubby, that unless i concieved on the 11 or 13 and still got my af, that im not pregnant.
He just said, hmm, and kept going about his business, hmm what does that mean?
I understand his reasons to wanting to wait to ttc, but in the bedroom he does other things then i try to talk to him and he just says, we have to wait.
I have enough pills to get me through december and we are supossed to be ttc in april, so i dont know if i should get some more or not, i would rather not as i think they are giving me issues down there, iykwim. So that would mean that in the bedroom i would not be covered by anything at all, so if hubby keeps giving me mixed messages in the bedroom, anything can happen, but if it does how will he feel, he wants to wait.
This is just doing my head in, i want to be pregnant, and i want it to happen when its right for both of us, not because of a slip up in the bedroom.
awwww ikwym!! i am soooooooooooooooooo needing to be UTD. At least your DH agrees on the next time. My DH and i are fighting over TTC#3 - one day he wants to and the next it's no way.
Sorry, i have nothing constructive for you, except empathy!!
The desire to be UTD is so strong and doing my head in. Although i know there is a long list of superficial reasons (money, the kids and thier ages and other stuff) to way against TTC #3.. i just dont care! You know?>
Things have never been perfect for us the 2 times before, but he is so obstanant (s?) to not TTC now.
Atleast he is being very cautious. Im not on the pill, i wnt off it as it was just playing bloody hell with my body... not to mention i always forgot one here or there... So we use condoms, but i hate them and am so sick of them. By the time he gets it on, i really reckon the moment has passed and it then becomes a chore!!!! But he refuse's to DTD wihtout one.... to the point we have argued.. lol but, i must say in the past week he has been a bit lax and has DTD but used the Pull out method which i dont know.... but anyways...
See we had set it for September... but before that had been set for december this year (when our youngest is 18 months), we changed our minds set it for sep 2009 but now we are here the baby bug has just bitten me again... what can i say??? im a woman! lol But he is dead set! ARGH... frustrating... i so undertsand where your coming from... except the missed message would be very annoying for you... Id sit him down if i was you and say it quite bluntly " im going off the pill, if you DONT wnat a baby yet... WEAR A CONDOM... otherwise.. we wil be TTC " :P heheh or something along those lines.... it will prove how serious he is about not wanting to TTC yet!
im glad there are other ppl out there who know how i feel. i have three beatiful kids 4,2 and 1 but still feel the erge for another already.
my hubby is abit weird though and loves them once there here but doesnt want to try for them but has told me he wants another daughter.i think he knows i will do it but doesnt want to admit it. i have wanted kids since 14 but luckily waited but have always told him that i am not on anything so if he doesnt want anymore it his his responsibility to do something about it as i HATE needles and the pill etc seriously stuffs up my hormones and gives me migranes and makes me in general a giant biach.
i have always told him that i wanted heaps of kids as i've always wanted a big family and am currently studying so wanted one more before getting a job and have been open about this.
so i dont know im in NTTNC mode i think either way but if it happens i will be thrilled im thinking i might put a little effort in starting next month as with my last two i got pregnnt 5 months after i stopped breastfeeding and i think i stopped in august but my memory is completely gone now so...
let me know how your going and good luck getting your on purpose accidents
once again for teh bloody mixed messages.
this morning it was like nothing happened, he wanted some BD'ing but i said no, incase the doc wants to do an internal if i get a positive result.
so who knows.
i know he wants this baby as he actually addmitted to his oldest friend that we were ttc again and that eh was actually enjoying it and looking forward to #3.
i know i wont ever get #4 as he said if we have 4 then we def need a new house adn a new car lol
LOL well, least he admitted it to someone else darls... thats something!
Can i ask you, how old were you when you had your first?
Lisa- thanks for the chat last night...was awesome to put a face to a name and everything Hope the storms settled down for you
AFM- i have woken up feeling very average... got a dry cough that is making me basically vommit, and i still have the "full" feeling ... bit of a headache and runny nose... and ofcourse i wake up to a cold melbourne rainy day lol no chance to sit out in the sun to kick this bug in the butt!!! Ah well, i do love the rain though.....
YES lmao i was like ****.. she was 15 when she had her son
BUT it also crossed my mind when i saw how old your OH is that he is your OH's from a former relationship, so made sense for me to not presume lol and ask!
Lisa- i posted to you in our other thread lmao... or is this our thread ahh im getting confused lmao. it aint over until AF arrives and if its just spotting sweets i reckon it could be implant bleeding!
Well ladies, i just post this in the tww thread of urs MissyMooMoo, i started spotting last night before bed, only a little pink and this morning it was a little brown, so its still50/50, i bleed for 12 weeks when i was pregnant with Kainne. I dont feel pregnant though, not like i did with Kainne, although i dont recall feeling pregnant with Grace either and there she was, lol.
Well hubby is being really good about it, even though you could see he did not really want to talk about it, he said well we will just have to try next month. I think i will have to really watch the need to poas, with 5 kids that can get costly, i could have had shares by now.
Well im still not out, till af completely arrives, so still 2 days till testing.
just wanting to be utd again
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