I think the other posts have some really great advice for you. I just wanted to add one thing in relation to the AD's.

I struggled with stopping an AD a few years ago. It wasn't the same one, but I too had a lot of trouble with discontinuation effects. The first GP I saw about it said some people had trouble stopping and set a program of gradually decreasing the dose over 6 weeks and then stopping. At the end of the 6 weeks I stopped and after 2 days of suffering the s/e I had to go back on them (at the lower dose).

At that point I did a lot of research online and spoke to a lot of other people taking the same thing (in forums) and came up with my own program of weaning. In the end I stopped from a much lower dose and didn't have the same problem with s/e. It took a lot longer (6 months) and I decreased the dose much more slowly, but I was able to stop taking them.

Oh, and during that 6 months I actually had another GP tell me that if I had any s/e there must have been something wrong with me because the AD wouldn't have done it.

So, if (note the "if" - I have no opinion as to whether you should/shouldn't) you decide to stop the meds it's worth getting another opinion (or ten) on the best way to manage it.

Good luck and I hope you are successful when you're ready to TTC!