I am sorry if that is offensive to anyone because it is somewhat careless but I have chosen not to go back on the pill so we use condoms and now we have been using nothing when I know its late enough in the cycle or right after af to be safe. The thing is it's not our intention to get preg but at any stage if we did become pregnant we would both be very happy!

Honey, why would we be offended that you don't know when you O'd or when you last had unprotected sex?! You and your DH would be happy with a pregnancy or no pregnancy right now, so if you're happy, we're happy! And there are thousands of women out there who haven't the foggiest notion of what their body is doing at any time during their cycle, so no worries. You're already several steps ahead. Don't give your self any guilt about that!

Anyways, as far as the "what is my body doing?" thing - all I can say is that my body has continued to surprise and confuse me with what it does during the first year of baby's life. (I am bf'ing though, so that's always different to.) I think it can take a long time for things to get fully sorted out again. I also find that my cycle is often thrown off by stress.

I really hope you get a definitive answer soon! Send your DH out again with only ONE thing written on the list! All the best!