Please post here! cd43

[Jas]

Hi,

Not really sure what I want to know to be honest but I thought I would post what is going on and see what you guys think?

So DH and I aren't ttc #2 just yet. We will most likely start in July but I have rejoined with fertility friend and have started taking a bit more notice of my cycles. Noah is 9.5 months and af came back when he was about 3months and I must have had about 5 or 6 af's so far, so fairly normal length in cycles. All I know is my last cycle was 34days in length and this cycle I am now on cd43 I have had af time pains for probably AT LEAST 10days now but no sign of af perhaps implantation? Also still getting a fair amount of cm for this late in the cycle. Just editing to add cm is the stretchy kind sorry for tmi

I did a hpt on monday night at cd41 and it was bfn it was a first response test with noah I got a bfp at 11dpo 1st time I tested but it was fmu. But I thought at this stage any time of the day would pick up a positive result anyway?

The thing is I haven't been taking note of ovulation or anything. With Noah we got preg 2nd cycle off the pill and so I had only just start taking note of the length and not doing much else. So I have no idea of ovulation day. Also I don't know when we had sex and if it was unprotected.

I am sorry if that is offensive to anyone because it is somewhat careless but I have chosen not to go back on the pill so we use condoms and now we have been using nothing when I know its late enough in the cycle or right after af to be safe. The thing is it's not our intention to get preg but at any stage if we did become pregnant we would both be very happy!

Anyway I asked dh last week if we had unprotected sex recently (couldn't remember because sometimes we use condoms anyway if I don't want the clean up effort sorry for tmi) and he said yes. So if this is just my normal cycle that means I would have ovulated later and may have dtd unprotected around o date.

I am just wondering what is going on? The cramping has eased a little in the last couple of days so almost felt like I have had af kwim except no actual af. I don't have to horrid 20times a day at least vomitting from 3weeks preg like last time yet, no sore bb so hmm what is going on???

[Jas]

lots of lookers but no takers..is everyone else just as unsure as me?

[Trillian]

I did have a look, went away to do something and forgot LOL. Sorry

Its hard to say, are you still BF? do you think that things could be out of whack from that still, even though you've had other relatively normal cycles? It is possible that you are pg though and just too early to get a +ve HPT yet - it can vary from pg to pg - out of 4pg's I only got one early +ve and you may not necessarily feel the same as last time either.

For me, the difference between being pg and not being pg near the time AF is due is when not pg, I get really dry, but when I am pg I get a lot of cm, almost ewcm.

[AMumma]

Im sorry new to all this charting. I hope its a BFP if thats what your hoping for

[Jas]

thanks for your replies. No I had major bf issues and after constant appts with a lactation consults ended up being advised to ff so haven't bf since he was 2 months!

[Antheia]

I have been having a think about this. It is quite possible that your are pg and may have o'd later as you said. If you did, then it is probably too early to get a positive test result. Fertility Friend suggests that if you don't know when you o'd that you should test 18 days after the last time you DTD. So i would wait until then and test again if no AF. Goodluck.

[Jas]

Thanks Antheia,

Last night DH went to the shops to get a few things for dinner etc and I gave him the list and went through it with him and what was the 1thing he forgot....a 3pack first response preg tests!!!

He said it wasn't on the list so I told him to get the list and I'd show him! When he came back with the list he had got a marker pen and crossed out the preg tests haha nice try!

So I will have to get some today! CD44 now! It's annoying not knowing what is going on at all kwim if I am preg then we will be very happy and excited if I'm not then that's fine too because we're not trying yet. Phil admitted the other night he was a bit disappointed when that 1st preg test was bfn.

Hopefully something happens soon - bfp or af comes.

How long should I leave it before I go to the gp or something?

[Antheia]

Well if it was me i would be going to the GP for a BT at around what i thought would be 6 weeks pg. So if you are pg, you're probably there now. Although as you could have o'd later i'm not sure. But BT is way stronger than HPT so it may show up now.

[Cricket]

I am sorry if that is offensive to anyone because it is somewhat careless but I have chosen not to go back on the pill so we use condoms and now we have been using nothing when I know its late enough in the cycle or right after af to be safe. The thing is it's not our intention to get preg but at any stage if we did become pregnant we would both be very happy!

Honey, why would we be offended that you don't know when you O'd or when you last had unprotected sex?! You and your DH would be happy with a pregnancy or no pregnancy right now, so if you're happy, we're happy! And there are thousands of women out there who haven't the foggiest notion of what their body is doing at any time during their cycle, so no worries. You're already several steps ahead. Don't give your self any guilt about that!

Anyways, as far as the "what is my body doing?" thing - all I can say is that my body has continued to surprise and confuse me with what it does during the first year of baby's life. (I am bf'ing though, so that's always different to.) I think it can take a long time for things to get fully sorted out again. I also find that my cycle is often thrown off by stress.

I really hope you get a definitive answer soon! Send your DH out again with only ONE thing written on the list! All the best!

[Jas]

Antheia, Thanks I might give it a little longe get some hpt's a get a fmu one.

Cricket, Thanks good idea re: the shopping list. I just thought it might be offensive to people who has problems ttc that someone else would be a bit blaise or careless about it.

[Antheia]

Hun, don't worry about what anyone else thinks. I've been ttc #3 now for 10 months and i dont think you are careless at all. I've also been on the otherside of it where i didnt know i was pg with DD until 12 weeks!

Good idea with the shopping list. Also maybe even buy some off ebay? They are cheap as and they work well according to most ppl who buy them. I found that they work better than the store bought ones. Also buying them online will give you a few more days to get that hcg hormone rising waiting for them to arrive.

[Jas]

Hi,

Ended up buying some yesterday afternoon. I did a test last night and got a bfn. I have a 3 pack though. Was going to do one this morning with fmu but I decided not to just quickly go through all the test, so I will leave it a few days.

It's a bit annoying because I don't know how many dpo I am so I don't know whether to just take those 2 bfn's and wait or think maybe I o'ed late and so possibly just testine too early?!

No sign of AF yet and still quite a bit of cm so who knows?! CD 45 now.

Thanks Antheia, I have been on a few other parenting sites lately to find clients to complete my Doula Training and on one inparticular there are posts about defamation law suits and people constantly making really rude comments to others and bickering back and forth in the threads and there was one situation that a lady who was having repeat miscarriages posted in the loss section saying she wsa upset and it's annoying seeing young girls having baby after baby and she was having trouble staying preg (I think this lady was 24 so she was refering to 14yr old who get preg by accident and then don't take care or responsiblitly for the kids not young mums in general) anyway a young mum made a whole thread about how insulting it was and boy did that thread get heated! So I suppose just didn't want to start any of the same! Sorry for the ramble just was so shocked by it on an internet forum!! Who is that crazy? If you don't like someone's POV well ignore it not like you have to put up with it IRL

[Antheia]

That's the great thing about BB, never get any of that rubbish. I have tried other forums just to see what they are like but i have been on BB for almost 4 years now so you can guess which i like more lol.

Sorry you got a bfn. I'm not sure what to think. You may have just missed an AF and are onto a new cycle, i have heard of that happening before.

Either way, with AF missing i would be going to the doctor to a) get a BT to check for pg and b) if neg BT, see why AF is missing.

[trini246]

I just wanted to pop in & wish you luck *crosses fingers you get a BFP soon*

[Cricket]

I don't know if it's any help to you, but I've had "cycles" since Emily was born ranging from 18 days to 40+ days. I'm using the term cycle loosely, since I really don't know if I'm O'ing and going through a whole cycle each time, or not. Not charting right now! And, we're not using b/c at all, either. So, like you, I never know whether I am pg or not, and I'm not too stressed now one way or the other. A baby would be welcomed and loved, but I am quite content to wait as well - life is pretty busy right now!

And I'll second what Antheia said - don't worry about what everyone else thinks about what you are doing. If you didn't want a baby, and were being careless, that would be wrong, but if you and your DH will love and care for your baby, then no one has anything to say to you!