i'd be a bit like the other ladies - very reluctant to buy before i'm pg - and i guess being a long-termer, i can related to how much harder it has been - and having baby stuff around would make it so much worse. My brother and SIL actually gave us heaps of baby things (basinet, bath, change mats etc) - and after over two years of trying, when a young friend was pregnant, i handed them to her to get them out of the house. she asked recently if we'd like to go and pick them up again as her baby had outgrown them - i told her to give them to charity as i just can't handle them being here at the moment! it will mean added expense one we're pregnant - but a few extra dollars is a whole lot easier to cope with than pain everytime i go into the spare room....

if finances are what your partner is concerned about, maybe have a think about setting up a "baby account" - work out what you'd be spending on baby stuff each week or fortnight if you were to layby or purchase them, and put it into a seperate bank account - then when you are pg, you can go and get everything - or leave it in the bank, spend that same amount each fortnight, and you have an emergency "kitty" for when bubs arrives - i'm sure there will be lots of unexpected little expenses when bubs gets here! the other thing in doing this is that it makes sure you don't purchase stuff you think is "cute" now, but realise in a year when your baby arrives that something else is much cuter, or more suited to what you want! you don't want to be sick of something before bubs even has a chance to use it!