Are these reasons not to TTC just now?

[Reet]

Oh im so sorry to hear But please know that you dont need to get everything right for your baby to want to come, babies dont care if you dont feel like ur life is perfect, they can come at what you think is the worst timing but it all works out!

I had 2 miscarriages between my DD and being pregnant now and I truly believe it was because I was trying to force a pregnancy to happen, I had it in my head that I wanted another baby straight after my DD. In hindsight, if that wld have happened I wldnt have coped! The 3 year age gap between kids will be perfect for my family.

My m/cs made me have a few big realisations which I really needed, moreso my last one where my baby died at 10ish weeks. I was really trying to force the pregnancy to be successful, once it was all over I realised its something that cant he controlled and u really shldnt try and force something so natural! (This is for my situation only, ivf etc is a whole different story)

It really sounds like u have taken what you need to from this m/c your going through..which is good, and does help the healing process, but at the same time, having your baby that you have so many dreams for already, taken from you really really hurts as well and I am so sorry your going through it. xx
Take care of yourself and know that ur baby is there just waiting for the right moment to be part of ur lives. x

[Kirley64]

Lee, I'm so sorry to hear about your little heaven baby. Missed miscarriages are so frustrating (all of them are, but each type is different itms). My first m/c was a blighted ovum too. I was very very angry after that. It made no sense. Felt like a cruel trick. In hindsight I was glad that I didn't have to pass a 12wk baby so for me I held onto the graciousness of my God for that small mercy. I am someone who doesn't believe that there is a wrong time for a baby, and I personally don't think that miscarriages happen because it wasn't the right time yet...but I do know that lots of blessings will happen now that wouldn't have happened if you were still pregnant. for us after the last miscarriage - I was just handed a job that was more than enough to pay for a brand new car and my sons kindy this year - in the months surrounding my last m/c we couldn't even get a 5k loan from the bank for a second hand car. So keep an eye out for the things you can enjoy now that you may have missed out on if you were pregnant. By no means does it make up for the baby - i desperately wish that i was having my last little m/c bub this week....but it helps your perspective a little and helps you get past the anger and hurt.
xx hang in there.