WDYT of TTC 6 months after birth

[delphmoon]

Hi all,

Just looking for some opinions. DH and I are eager to TTC #2. We both have been wanting a big family.

When I suggested to my mum we were going to start TTC in January, my mum suggested it was a selfish thing to do as DD would be 16 months old (or there abouts if we got BFP straight away). Surprisingly my dad and some friends feels the same way

I have always imagined having kids close together, so they grow up together and can share similar interest, play and ofcourse fight (LOL).

What do you think? For those that have had babies close together- did it work out for you and did you body handle it ok?

TIA

[Kazmar]

Hey? Selfish?

I always say the best gift we gave our girls, was eachother

I say if both you and DH and ready, go for it! A lot of women have a massive fear for the 1st while ttc #2 or being pg with #2, I was one of these women

But how silly I was! The most AMAZING thing is watching them together

[Traveller]

I loved having my first two kids 15 months apart, and would have been delighted if we had them closer together but it took me a few months to concieve (we were trying from 6 weeks postnatal). It was great when they were babies as we were already in the swing of restless nights, nappies, etc. Now they are older they are best friends. Yes it is tiring but if it feels right for you, then go for it

[YoYo]

I wouldn't call it selfish, just your choice.

It's not my idea of a good time, but hey, that's my choice

Go for it if that is what you want

[Babyluv]

My sister and I are 18 months apart and so are my brother and I, we loved it growing up, we were always together, having adventures and my sister and I became best friends as teenagers. We are planning on ttc number 2 when this bub is about 6 months old, saying that though I may change my mind depending on how the birth goes!
I say go for it, it's not selfish at all.

[Maruschke]

Go for it! It isn't selfish at all. Actually I loved having a sister around my age (13 months apart). Good luck with TTC!

[skybie]

if thats wat u and ur hubby want to do then do it! stuff everyone else.
We have and we're so glad we did

[Heaven]

Tell them that's 16 months of one-on-one time that baby number 2 will never get! I think the benefits of having a sibling WAY outweigh any negatives.

Everyone has an opinion, wish some would learn to keep it to themselves! Do whatever makes you happy!

[Melster]

My nieces are 12months apart and they are so close....she said it was hard at the start because they were both in nappies, both on bottles and said it was double of everything...but now she loves it...

Dont worry about others...you just do what suits you and you're partner and what you're happy with because at the end of the day its you're lives....

[krisp]

My 2 are almost 19 months apart. I didn't once consider it selfish - how very odd! I considered it a gift, to give to my child a sibling. My DD will be 3 in a few weeks and I'll have a 3 year old and a 4 year old - until DS turns 5 in March..LOL!

If it's right for you then Woo Hoo bring on bubba number 2

[toomanyshoes]

We have 4 years between ours but that worked for us.

If your DH and yourself want it, go for it! It's not selfish and you will know what's best for your family

[Enchanted]

I don't think it is selfish at all! It sounds like you and your DH have had a good chat about it and are happy with your decision, so go for it!
We do things for us, not anyone else. So don't let anyone try and tell you that you are doing the wrong thing.
Listen and take on board what you want but discard the rest

[TeniBear]

I can't really talk about how the kids interact (one being "gone" and the other still gestating) but on the physical side, my body seems to be handling this pregnancy quite well. There was about four months between me giving birth to Ianto and getting pregnant with Cookie, so less than you've said. My muscles in my belly are a touch sore (all the time!), but that might just be normal pregnancy pains rather than related to the closeness of my pregnancies. I say if you want it, go for it!

[~Hestia~]

I had hoped to start TTC when DS was around the same age, but as I didn't get AF back til his first birthday it was somewhat out of my hands! I really want my kids close too, I thought they could play together and while I'm used to interrupted nights and nappies I may as well continue with it lol.
At the end of the day it's YOUR choice. If that's what you and your DH want to do, don't worry about anyone else

[boobaloo]

i don't think it's selfish at all. but i'm not going to lie, it's hard work, especially in the toddler years. but the relationship the kids has is really beautiful to watch.
my body didn't handle it very well, i suffered very bad depression and anxiety as a result of no iron after dd was born, and have yet to lose any weight. but i'm still happy we did it the way we did.
good luck xo

[delphmoon]

Wow everyone! Thankyou soo much for all your posts. I can't reply individually but I have read them all so thankyou.

Thankyou for those that commented regarding the relationships between siblings when they are close together in age being enhanced as they grow up toegether. That is what DH and I expected...

And those that commented on it being hard work- we totally expect that too and figure while we are up changing nappies, juggling feeds etc we might as well keep going.

Also on the physical side of giving birth- thanks Tenibear for your comments and Boobaloo- just wondering if you knew you had an iron issue during or after birth?

Oh, and Chessel monster- I have had 2 AF's out of the 4 months- I completely forgot one needs AF back before TTC whoops...LOL..

Thanks everyone, your thoughts are appreciated

[catetay]

completely up to you and what suits your family, i would have thought! i'm the eldest of 6 kids in 9 years, 13 mths between myself and next brother, then all pretty close. we were close growing up, and all very close as adults. I had hoped for my chn to be around 18mths apart but didn't work out that way. i'm not sure why bringing a new life into the world is selfish, but i get that sometimes when i talk about ttc #3

[Beach Mama]

Agreed with everyone else! Mine are 17 mths apart, love each other dearly and I can see already how close they will be as they get older and what great friends they are. Do what is right for you and stuff what everyone else thinks