TTC & Gender Swaying

[milly5]

Hi ladies!

Quote Meow: Do you think swaying can bring up feelings of gender disappointment?
DH and I talked about it, and we realised that we probably would end up with a girl (if you look at the swaying techniques for girl, we inadvertantly followed most of them), so if we just tried to change a few things it may or may not work, but not going to hurt to give it a go, and be prepared that its still a 50-50 throw of the dice. We'd be happy with a pink one, just that DH would be even happier with a blue one Getting a bit over the TTC ATM though, so we would be happy with either - SOON!

[milly5]

Hi ladies!

Quote Meow: Do you think swaying can bring up feelings of gender disappointment?
DH and I talked about it, and we realised that we probably would end up with a girl (if you look at the swaying techniques for girl, we inadvertantly followed most of them), so if we just tried to change a few things it may or may not work, but not going to hurt to give it a go, and be prepared that its still a 50-50 throw of the dice. We'd be happy with a pink one, just that DH would be even happier with a blue one Getting a bit over the TTC ATM though, so we would be happy with either - SOON!

[meow]

I think that is where I'm at- we'll be happy either way but maybe it's worth doing just to see. I thought it over yesterday. I considered PGD and decided I don't want a girl that much. I really do see us with a boy so to ensure we have a girl seems too much for us. If we don't try gender swaying and have a boy though I guess I could be left wondering if perhaps we would have had a girl. I guess I've realised that I think I'll have less gender disappointment if we try swaying because then if we have a boy I'll know it was just meant to be

[foreva*your*mummy]

I know this is way to much info but has anyone tested their DH ph? We (him and I) where taking all the sups to lower ph and he was on alot and after 4 months of being on them I tested his ph sperm and it was so off the chart alkaline!! I was so disappointed I do feel like this is the reason we are conceiving boys lol I don't think there is any girl sperms in there, I wish I could do a test to see if it is 50/50 like people say. I don't know what to do any more I have given up even ttc because I'm to scared to even get pregnant.

[Mildez]

FYM I have tested both DH and I with PH sticks and DH was very much nutral and me favoured girl environment which didn't surprise me as I have 3 daughters. I wouldnt douche as I have a tendancy to get bacterial vaginosis which has caused fertility problems for me so I dont want to get rid of my normal environment and changing my diet has not done a thing. I think I will have a 4th daughter.

[foreva*your*mummy]

Yes see I am natural to acidic and I have tried putting DH sperm in a container and used a special lime mix to favour the girl sperm but that hasn't worked. I have douched and did when I got pregnant last year but sadly that resulted in mc, so it made me think maybe the lime just had to do with it, but everyone said that once I was pregnant then there was no chance it could have been the reason.
I don't know any more maybe for me I think that if I got pregnant then I would have to deal with the outcome and I know I would love a ds anyway. I think it would be later that I will have the feelings back about wanting a dd.
Very hard situation it's it

[Mildez]

FTY we started swaying for a boy with DD3 but after 3 pregnancy losses and 2years later and no baby we gave up (we actually gave up at around the 12month mark and just wanted to get pregnant) I didn't have any form of gender disappointment until DD3 was almost 2years old and then the desire to have a son became really strong which I had not ever experienced before. I was so delighted to be expecting a 3rd DD. We are ttc now but I just have this feeling its not going to happen. I'm abit like you in the fact I know my natural diet and body favours girls so when I get pregnant will have to accept the baby will most likely be another DD. Personally I would love another DD so thats not what I am concerned about its the fact that as it will be my last its my last opportunity to have a son. I'm sure I wouldn't have 5 children. I dont get pregnant easily and if and when number 4 comes along regardless of the gender I know that it will be it for various reasons. I could keep having babies as lng as my body will let me but our heads tell us there has to come a point when enough is enough.

[Danielle_NZ]

I'm a little confused, it says in "the girl diet" post at the beginning to take these supplements every day until O but then at the bottom it says every day...

Supplements
Every day of the cycle
Calcium (1200 mg a day)
Magnesium (250 mg a day)
Acidilophis (2 a day)
B6 (100 mg a day) Take all the time, but when you get a bfp you need to ween off slowly- if you take 100 this means the next week you take 80, then the next week 60 then 40, 20, 10 then stop. This is taken to raise progestrone and legthen luteal phase. Side efffects: When taken before O it may dealy O. It will also legthen your luteal phase
Chasteberry (Vitex) (500 mg a day) this has progestrone so you need to treat it the same as you would with b6
Cranberry (total of 1,500 to 10,000 mg a day if possible) cranberry can not be taken after O as it can cause mc.

What do others think?

[Danielle_NZ]

I think that is where I'm at- we'll be happy either way but maybe it's worth doing just to see. I thought it over yesterday. I considered PGD and decided I don't want a girl that much. I really do see us with a boy so to ensure we have a girl seems too much for us. If we don't try gender swaying and have a boy though I guess I could be left wondering if perhaps we would have had a girl. I guess I've realised that I think I'll have less gender disappointment if we try swaying because then if we have a boy I'll know it was just meant to be

That's exactly how I feel Meow... if we try for a girl and get a little blue bundle instead then it wasn't meant to be.

[milly5]

danielle - this is only my opinion re the supplements:
I took 1500-3000mg calcium as I was deficient. my calcium supplement has magnesium in it.
Cranberrry - I took 10000mg per day 20000 if I felt a UTI coming on as I had HEAPS of UTIs when TTC/pg with DD1, I didn't get so many (only one or 2) with DD2, but still took that dosage.
acidophilis - I took one a day
I didn't have success with vitex - I did get a BFP, but that ended in m/c,. I think that vitex taken at different times of the cycle does different things - for some people it is recommended to take until o, others after o, and others all the time - a naturopath would be able to explain better.
B6 is in alot of morning sickness supplements so I would imagine it would be OK to take as long as you didn't exceed that dose - I am taking it at present, for the whole of my cycle.
I have halved my calcium dose and have stopped taking cranberry (unless needed) as we are aiming for a blue one if we can!
hope that helps!

[Danielle_NZ]

Thank you. Its nice to hear what people do in real life

[Jennifer13]

Hi girls, we weren't TTC this time, but from a timing POV we've done exactly the right thing for a blue one this time. (Although we did that last time too...). I wonder what coming off such a run of illness did to my internal balance.

This one was clearly meant to be, but interested to see if my boy feelings this time might be right.

[Danielle_NZ]

So you are keeping it a surprise then Jennifer? Gosh your controlled :-) I'm not even pregnant and can't wait for my 20 week scan LOL

[Jennifer13]

Oh goodness no, as soon as I have the scan we'll tell everyone! Only 8 wks in atm.

Our 12 wk u/s with DD2 did (correctly) indicate probably going to be a girl (place was doing an early gender prediction study), so maybe we will get an idea in a month.

[Bella29]

Omg! Jen!!!!!! Hahahah! Woohoo! We are gonna ttc a boy in August! Woohoo for you! I hope you succeed! Do you normally find out? Weeeeeee! So excited for you!

[Bella29]

So we are gearing up for a bit of ttc and want a little boy to brighten our lives as we have two gorgeous little girls. I won't be devastated if it doesn't work, but I would love a little boy. There are 6 grandies for my parents and all of them are girls. We want to start to ttc in August I think. But yeah.... Just wondering what methods people suggest? Shettles?? Want to buy an ovacue to help if we go that way, but also interested in ph etc and diets. Anyone?

[Jennifer13]

Good luck, Bella! We used an ovulation kit when TTC DD2. Worked - we fell pg immediately. No good for us on the gender swaying, but we're a tough case.

[Bella29]

So have you done gender testing already Jen?