TTC a sibling for my 2.5 yo DS at 42, am I getting too old for this?

[Miss.B]

Hi ladies,

I am having a mini melt down and looking for some support and happy endings TTC after 42. Long story short, I didn't meet my partner till I was 35, and then by the time we had my partner sorted after a failed vesectomy reversal, we started TTC with IVF when I was 38. My first son my stillborn, and then I conceived my DS2 in 2009 at 39 also with IVF. Initially we've had no trouble getting pg with IVF, but that was from a cycle done 4 years ago. The last 2 cycles this year have been unsuccessful. The thing is, am I kidding myself that I can fall pg again? I will be 43 next May. Judging from my last 2 cycles (the first one in Jan 2012 was a m/c at 6.5 weeks and the second in July didn't produce a pg) it won't be a walk in the part due to my age. I'm just looking for some reassurance that there are ladies out there who have gotten pg after 42 be it a natural pg or IVF.

Thanks

[Yas]

Miss B massive massive Your journey hasn't been easy My mum had a baby at nearly 42, natural conception and no complications. My dh's grandma had a baby at 48! She thought she was going through menopause and nearly died when she felt the baby start moving! He was born with no complications either.
I really hope you get an earth side sibling for your ds soon xxxx

[juniper76]

You've had 3 BFPs from 4 IVF - that's pretty awesome in my books! I know 2 of them could not stay with you, but you're still doing better than I did TTC#1 (1 BFP from 5 cycles) and I was 32-34 during those cycles.

While you're still producing eggs, it's still possible.

I'll be lucky if I don't hit menopause before 42, so we're all different. All you can do is keep going so long as it's right for you and stop when it's no longer right to continue. No-one can tell you when it's time to throw in the towel, it's something you and your partner have to work out for yourselves.

[Kazzo]

hi lovely, I am sorry to hear your having some doubts and fears at the moment. Last night on the news (here in Sydney) there was a story that women over 40 are leading the baby boom. Your not alone out there, there are lots of women your age having babies. My nana also had a baby later in life.

Good luck hun, i hope you get your wish soon

[Miss.B]

Thanks ladies, I wrote the post after 2 glasses of red hahaha so I was feeling pretty emotional, lol.

Yas and Kazzo, it's good to know there were 'older' pg in your families! It's so encouraging to hear, thank ladies.

Juniper, I hear what you're saying bun, I just suspect my 'half decent' fertile window was when I was 38. Looking back at my results this year, so 4 years later, the path to conception seems to be that much harder, which is what I expected. I think because we keep moving the cycle out and that damn clock is ticking away so bloody loudly (it's actually gone off now, with full on ringing ) I feel like I am literally running out of time AND eggs

[LuluHB]

I had Miss A two months before turning 42. I had 4 m/cs trying to get her and ended up on hormone support but we got there eventually with a natural conception. I also have just had another m/c so conception at least is still possible.

I hope the conception fairy smiles on you very soon

[Miss.B]

I'm so sorry to hear about your m/c Lulu I'm sorry too that you've had to go through so much heartache to get your DD3 I do think of you often when I'm feeling down, because you've done it and it gives me hope. Thanks hunni xoxo

[LuluHB]

I've got everything crossed that you get there Miss B. Its so much crap along the way but I'd do it all again.

[Mum2SweetCs]

Love knows no age miss b. Wishing you all the best and hope to hear a PA soon

[RockingBaker]

My mum just had another baby (naturally) nearly 5 months ago. She was 41 when conceived, 42 when she had him.

[Mildez]

I work as a midwife and recently cared for a lady who was 48 just 1.5months off 49. She conceived naturally unplanned just after her 48th birthday. She went to the Dr will swelling in her abdomen and the Dr said she had ovarian cancer and sent her for an urgent ultrasound. It was then they found the stow away close to 5months along by memory and 21years after her last baby. The new bub was perfect. There is definately hope both naturally and with IVF.

[Miss.B]

Thanks Mum2SweetCs and RockingBaker (and congrats on your little princess Mum2SweetCs and on your bun in the oven RockingBaker)

Wow Mildez, what an amazing story about the 48 year old mum with a newborn! All I can say is WOW.

[nothing2lose]

I'm right there with you MissB

Let's be the old farts in the maternity ward together!

[Miss.B]

Hahahahaha, I really hope so n2l, I might need a walking frame though. You???? bahahaha x

[nothing2lose]

I'll be on rollerskates