TTC a sibling for my 2.5 yo DS at 42, am I getting too old for this?

[Miss.B]

Hi ladies,

I am having a mini melt down and looking for some support and happy endings TTC after 42. Long story short, I didn't meet my partner till I was 35, and then by the time we had my partner sorted after a failed vesectomy reversal, we started TTC with IVF when I was 38. My first son my stillborn, and then I conceived my DS2 in 2009 at 39 also with IVF. Initially we've had no trouble getting pg with IVF, but that was from a cycle done 4 years ago. The last 2 cycles this year have been unsuccessful. The thing is, am I kidding myself that I can fall pg again? I will be 43 next May. Judging from my last 2 cycles (the first one in Jan 2012 was a m/c at 6.5 weeks and the second in July didn't produce a pg) it won't be a walk in the part due to my age. I'm just looking for some reassurance that there are ladies out there who have gotten pg after 42 be it a natural pg or IVF.

Thanks

[Yas]

Miss B massive massive Your journey hasn't been easy My mum had a baby at nearly 42, natural conception and no complications. My dh's grandma had a baby at 48! She thought she was going through menopause and nearly died when she felt the baby start moving! He was born with no complications either.
I really hope you get an earth side sibling for your ds soon xxxx

[juniper76]

You've had 3 BFPs from 4 IVF - that's pretty awesome in my books! I know 2 of them could not stay with you, but you're still doing better than I did TTC#1 (1 BFP from 5 cycles) and I was 32-34 during those cycles.

While you're still producing eggs, it's still possible.

I'll be lucky if I don't hit menopause before 42, so we're all different. All you can do is keep going so long as it's right for you and stop when it's no longer right to continue. No-one can tell you when it's time to throw in the towel, it's something you and your partner have to work out for yourselves.

[Kazzo]

hi lovely, I am sorry to hear your having some doubts and fears at the moment. Last night on the news (here in Sydney) there was a story that women over 40 are leading the baby boom. Your not alone out there, there are lots of women your age having babies. My nana also had a baby later in life.

Good luck hun, i hope you get your wish soon

[Miss.B]

Thanks ladies, I wrote the post after 2 glasses of red hahaha so I was feeling pretty emotional, lol.

Yas and Kazzo, it's good to know there were 'older' pg in your families! It's so encouraging to hear, thank ladies.

Juniper, I hear what you're saying bun, I just suspect my 'half decent' fertile window was when I was 38. Looking back at my results this year, so 4 years later, the path to conception seems to be that much harder, which is what I expected. I think because we keep moving the cycle out and that damn clock is ticking away so bloody loudly (it's actually gone off now, with full on ringing ) I feel like I am literally running out of time AND eggs

[LuluHB]

I had Miss A two months before turning 42. I had 4 m/cs trying to get her and ended up on hormone support but we got there eventually with a natural conception. I also have just had another m/c so conception at least is still possible.

I hope the conception fairy smiles on you very soon