First off, Rex has read through all of this and wanted to say something himself
Rex: Hey all just thought i'd say thank you so so very much for being so supportive of my darling. I know that try as i might to help her feel better about the issues i'm a poor subsitiute for those with experiance. That said i'm extreamly glad that she has found a place where she can talk freely about her feelings without having to worry about what others will say as untill now i've been the only person she has felt comfortable talking about this with. I'd also like to say that since she has found this site the amount of stress and anxiety i have seen from her has become SO MUCH lower which in turn has made things a lot less stressful to do, eg going out and about and risking exposure to babies. theres so much more i would like to say but being me i have a lot of trouble getting feelings out of my head and into words so i'll just sum it up by again saying thank you for everything, for being supportive when she needed you to be and for advising her in a sensible manner. You have all been so very helpful. Well thats my bit i might make notes later but for now back to my dearest.
Hehe ^^ I haven't replied in a while as I haven't known what to say, but I'm really overwhelmed by all of the kind responses I have received. It's helped so much to find that I'm not alone, not crazy, and that it's okay to feel like this! Simply not feeling so alone is a huge relief.
I confess that were I to somehow accidentally get pregnant now I'd probably go "yay!" then 'Oh, ****...' but I know I'd have people to turn to. I'll be trying to implement everyone's suggestions for coping ^^ I do like making plans, not so much when they don't come to fruition, but still. I think we'll talk more about it once his enrolment for Tafe this year is finalised, and work out more details once we see how we settle into this year's groove.
There aren't many babies around me I can 'steal', just Paige and Rex's godfather's new little girl, whose name I don't even know yet XD Rex has bought her a little pink set of toy cuddlebunny, blanket, and neck pillow, and today Mum and I found an adorable penguin-themed set containing bib, singlet, onesie (I think) and a sleeper. The little ducky blanket/cuddle/facewasher we were going to get before the penguin set is now mine > It's so cute and soft and fluffy!! Anyway, I'll see about being permitted to babysit Paige sometimes, and will be at Sara's house on wednesday. I wonder how big she's gotten since I last saw her She grows so fast!
It still hurts a bit, but I feel able to cope with it now. Again, having so many kind, supportive responses is really humbling and amazing to me, I'm so thankful to you all.
And specially for xXHopeXx - I hope my story will go much the same as yours has :P Your list will be especially helpful, I think, and I'll definitely be trying everything you mention. Maybe I can distract myself by pre-planning the wedding...while there's no pressure, it's so much fun! Lucky I don't want a big fancy fest though, I'd rather have my small wedding MY way than a big fancy one that his mother paid for and planned.
I've waffled on enough, but once more - THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH.
Amarysauce, I really can't add much more than all of the others on this thread have said, but would like to say that the fact that you and Rev are communicating about this issue and that you have taken the step to get information from a site like this suggests that when the time is right, you will be able to really prepare yourselves to be great parents. When you are parents that ability to communicate will be such an advantage. That you also came to this group and asked the questions does show that you know the answer for you and Rex right now but perhaps needed to hear it from that outside party or parties.
I have always loved kids and from the time I was about 15 I just wanted to surround myself with babies. I turned to babysitting and think that was the best decision I could have made. It was what was right for me.
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She grows so fast!
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