We have three children. We just can't decide whether to have any more. It makes sense to stop at three. But DH and I both feel the urge for a fourth. Three kids fit in the house, in the car. Not having any more means that I can pursue my career, we can be more comfortable financially. For a variety of reasons which only exist at work right now, it is a really good time for me to express my interest in advancing my career. Soon, I will have more freedom in the hours I can work. My career is something I have put off for the past 10 years to have my babies.

Having a fourth means continuing to work reduced hours for the next four or more years and no possibility of career advancement. It means a new car. Tight finances in the time I would take off work, and only being able to afford to take about 6 months off. It means handing my body over to pregnancy again and months of pain from SPD.

But someone is missing! And if we don't do it now, the chance will pass us by. But... I think even if I had six more children, there is still the chance that I would always want 'just one more'.

I have tried living with the decision to not have any more and it makes me feel sad. I have tried living with the decision to have one more and it makes me feel anxious.

What do you do if you just can't decide??