How much do you weigh?

[loulabelle]

Girl22, I think you should have phrased your op saying you were just curious and then the whole thing might have made a little more sense.Apart from the comments that followed which just didn't make any sense to me.

I really don't think making snide remarks about Admin is the most mature thing to do, after all they are just doing there job and trying to defuse the situation.

I have found your comments to me to be rather condescending.All I have wanted to know was the reason for you wanting to know.All you had to do was say you were just curious to begin with.I feel, seeing as I posted to your original question that I at least deserved that without being spoken to in that way.

I'm going to bow out of this now as I don't think it's doing me or anyone else any good by continuing.

[fionas]

I'm going to answer the question because it was something I was thinking about the other day in terms of whether other people, like me, have a 'magic weight'.

For me the magic weight is 70kg. If I weigh over that, my clothes don't fit properly, my thighs rub together, I "feel" overweight and exercising seems a struggle.

As soon as I go below the 70kg, I feel so much better. My clothes fit, I don't have a muffin top and walking seems so much easier.

So for me even though there's not that much difference between 69.5kg and 70.2kg, it really seems to make a world of difference for me.

I'm about 166cm so even at 70kg, I'm still classed as a tad overweight on the BMI, but once I'm at that weight I feel like I can lose more weight whereas until I get to that weight I feel like it's a hard slog.

Hope that makes sense.

FWIW, I was 74.5kg when I got pregnant with DD and am now closer to 69kg. Next goal is 68kg.

[krysalyss]

I have just read through the posts and have a feeling that this thread is similar to the petite person constantly saying they are fat so that others deny it.
I think we are all forewarned now that the motives may not be altruistic so either don't post your details or edit them if you have already disclosed more than you want. I think anyone demanding more explanation will be disappointed.

[LimeSlice]

I just wanted to say that I understood the first post perfectly.

The title is "how much do you weigh?" It is pretty clear that G22 was after a number. I cannot see why the reason she wants it is important. Either you are happy to post the number or not. And many of the first posters didnt actually post a number.

Obviously the posts since and the inability to explain motivation and becoming obviously flippant was unhelpful in the extreme. I think this whole thing has been a bit of a miscommunication.

I personally dont think there is anything wrong with the question...it is certainly not the way I was raised, but then again this is an online forum for a reason. People should feel free to ask questions that in person may not be entirely appropriate. Nobody was forced to answer and if they arent comfortable, then they shouldn't.

Girl22 - I hope that you can learn to express yourself better and be more open to answering questions yourself before next espousing home truths about maturity.
And for your information, I weigh 91kg.
I put on NO weight at all during pregnancy and have put on 25kg since.

[AnyDream]

Fiona, I'm really interested in your idea about "magic weight" - partly because - without particularly trying to or not to, my weight seems to stabilise at certain points...eg, I weighed my pre-preg weight for nearly 9 years (after not losing my "baby" weight after first DD). I'm sure it would go up or down by a kilo or so (around Easter, for example ) but pretty much stayed around the same.

I'm just wondering - do you think the magic weight stays the same all the time - or do you think it's something that drifts a little as time passes. eg a lot of women find they gain a couple of kilos as they head into middle age? Or is it really set in concrete for you?

FWIW, I disclosed a number because a) I'm in a getting-real-with-myself mood today and b) because I wanted to demonstrate how arbitrary the judgements that we make - collectively or individually - about weight - our own or others - really is.

[*Beema*]

To answer your question I am 65kg (well I was last time I "weighed" in, I was 70kg 3 weeks earlier and I was ok, with my size but not thirlled

I was aiming for 60kg, but now I am not so fussed, I think for me 65kg is my Magic Number/Weight (I really think there is one Fionas!!), I am 165cm tall, but my focus is more on my measurements than my weight, as at my fittest before having bubs I was 64kg, but I was a lot trimmer and I could lift more than my own body weight, I was very toned, had good looking abs etc, so I don't know if I will ever get to 60kg, but as long as my measurements keep dropping it is all good in my book. I am also hoping to get my body fat % down, me and my PT spoke about BMI's the other night and they are really quite out of date and such a small percentage of people actually fit within these ranges naturally. So we look wholisically at the body, done density, body fat, fitness etc. And on top of the the "I feel good about myself" feeling, being happy with your self.

Fab Post Lime Slice

[LimeSlice]

I tend to find that my magic number is about 55kgs. I am a short arse - 5'4 if I am being generous lol- so I tend to find that I don't look as slim as I would like if I am more than that. For me to feel slim I generally get to a size 8. I haven't been that small for a few years now, having been steadily putting on weight since moving to perth 4 years ago.
Except for when I was preggers! lol then I couldn't put on weight if I tried, even lost 3 kgs near the end...
More than made up for it now though! I have NEVER been this big, and it is scary. I dont want to end up on the Biggest Loser. this is morbid, but my mum was a big lady, just about always had been. But when she died, the effect of the cancer on her body was horrifying. she didnt lose weight. The meds she was on at the end made her bloat. But none the less, I dont want to look like my mums body did when she was dead. That is my motivation. I NEVER want anyone to see me like that, alive or dead. Extreme I know, but it is the only motivation I have that is strong enough to help me lose the weight and keep it off.

[Ahurani]

I'm 110kgs, ive put on 10 kgs since July ... oops..

[Salsa]

I was one of the earliest posters and gave my weight and what I want to get back to - as fionas said, my magic number.

I DO think GG2 could take a bit more time to work out what she is saying, but clear communication is a skill some people lack, I know I have days when I write poorly.

BUT, I also think that the original post and question in it was fair enough to put out there and its up to the readers whether they reply or not. She did say in that post
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I hope you ladies can feel comfortable in sharing your weight.
I think if you didnt then you could have moved on or like some others just not give your stats. I have read threads in BB that I was not comfortable with before so I clicked myself away.



Limeslice - you are about the same size as me (h & w) but I feel too thin if I get down to sz 8 or below 55kg. My ideal for how I look and feel and easiest to natuarally maintain in 57kg.
Currently I am wondering if I will ever be back down there though ? I put on alot of weight this last pregnancy and its not shifting as fast as it did last time.

[LimeSlice]

Salsa - Nice to know!
57kgs sounds nice I think the thing that has really tipped me over the edge this time is that now I have GG cup boobs and am a size 16-18....except that I cant find clothes that small that fit around my boobs. It is just depressing.

[rosehannah]

My ticker says most of it, I'm 81kg at the moment aiming for 65kg. I stand at 165cm tall with a medium frame. After having three bubs and being 36yrs. I don't expect to ever look as good as I used to and am coming to terms with it and getting real. I would also like to say FWIW, that if I didn't want to tell the world then I wouldn't have posted it.

[Girl-23]

It is good to see the situation smooth over. Perhaps in the future to prevent bickering, it is best for a person to move away from threads that they do not feel comfortable with or answering. I have noticed individuals who had a problem with this thread were the same individuals that did not post a figure. While others posted a number. In real life, of course it wouldn't be the best of discussions to have. Having said that, this is virtual word afterall, so I thought it would be fine to post without having to "explain a motivate" or the importance of why I am asking such a question. I must have communicated poorly to have triggered so many unwanted responses. But than again, this is a discussion board not a massive assignment I have to submit, so therefore I might not too much about how I am presenting my point of view or opinions. Well, that is all from me this time. Take it away ladies. Enjoy the thread!

[Neenee Jellybeanie]

Girl22, I think the problem was that your comments were contradictory, not that you offended with your question just because you asked it.

I flipped through a great labour and birth book at the library (the name of which has completely escaped my mind) that had a much more realistic weight chart. For my height (last time I checked it was 5'4 but DP and I are quite sure I've grown taller) 75kgs is healthy and 80kgs is overweight depending on your body type, for me that's totally true. I have a large/heavy anyway - when I was between 70 and 75kgs I was a size 10.

I currently weigh (sigh) 100kgs and am a size 14 - 18 (usually a 16). My highest weight was 112kgs (my pregnancy weight and I got up there without being preg when DD was 9 months). I lost 17kgs and got down to 95, gained back maybe 10 and have since lost 5. I would be ecstatic to get down to 80 as with a bit of muscle, that's very healthy for my frame. I imagine I'd be a size 12 which would be great. I'm more interested in being fit and capable rather than being X weight and X size to be honest.

BTW, to the woman who said she has big boobs at my size, I'm a 14-16G! Lol!

[Visitor8]

Well I've gained 18 kgs this pregnancy, I'm hoping no more! The number doesn't really faze me, it's just a bit depressing thinking I won't be able to fit into my pre-preg clothes when this little one comes out. I know I won't ...obviously not straight away but even later down the track it will be hard. I've gained a lot of weight on my thighs/hips/butt I weighed 48kg at my first antenatal appointment and now I'm 66kgs. I never thought I would gain almost 20kg! My weight has never fluctuated in my life, and had been the same since the beginning of high school, so it's a pretty big change for me. At least I'll have something(one) motivating me to go for walks soon

They say the smaller you are the more you'll gain, the heavier you are the less you'll gain. True to me too when I was 60kg I gained heaps (35kg), when I was 80 I gained a little (11kg) and with Ash I gained 3kg lol

What's the shame in asking about weight and age? Besides from answering to a stranger on the street, there should be no shame.

You may as well be a stranger on a street. I don't know you. There is no shame in responding for those who are comfortable doing so. Your attitude turned me off replying.

[diannescruffy]

I have always struggled with gaining weight. During my pregnancies put on a max of 8kg and always carried very small. I always hoped to keep some weight on after giving birth but within a week I'd be back to my pre preg weight. Thankfully with my last preg I kept on 3kg. I am 52kg and 163cm, small frame, have no idea what my BMI is or should be. My point is we are all different body shapes, frames and sizes but the most important thing is to be happy with who you are, beauty shines from the inside out.

Regards,
Dianne

[Bathsheba]

QUOTE: Girl22 "Having said that, this is virtual word afterall, so I thought it would be fine to post without having to "explain a motivate" or the importance of why I am asking such a question. I must have communicated poorly to have triggered so many unwanted responses. But than again, this is a discussion board not a massive assignment I have to submit, so therefore I might not too much about how I am presenting my point of view or opinions."

I think this is problematic and is the crux of the issue as to why people have rightly become upset

BellyBelly is not a computer game. It is not "virtual" like The Sims. BB is 100% about real people's thoughts and feelings Girl22. And to be honest I feel like you have been a bit dismissive of this. Have you met many members in real life? I have... over a dozen... and once you do this you could never call BB "virtual".

Yes, members could choose whether to contribute to this thread... but we contribute with the knowledge that BB is a SAFE place for sharing information about ourselves. You might not feel the need to be tactful Girl22... but maybbe read BB's guidelines... is is a requirement... if tact is too bothersome maybe stick to The Sims... a true virtual world. Also I'm wondering if there might be a language barrier... your posts could do with some editing for grammar Girl22... they are a bit challenging to read from that context as well.

[Bathsheba]

BTW I don't own a set of scales so my weight was just an estimate based on how my clothes are fitting ATM. I check my weight when I either go to the doctors or at friend's houses... my weight fluctuates sooooo much that I think it would be unhealthy to weigh myself every day... i would start to obsess and that could be counter-productive.

I like the notion of a "magic weight" too Fiona... I think mine could be 70kg too. ie I wouldn't want to go over that because then i would feel uncomfortable.

[Salsa]

The feeling this thread has left me with is yucky...
I went to sleep feeling yuk about it and woke up still feeling blah about it.

TBH Im not that interested in how much people weigh and all the rest, we are all different shapes and sizes and after having babies we tend to become different again.


I have not met any BB members irl and I dont go on any other forums, but I think BB has a strength that members become quite loyal and respectful of one another.
Its a great place to be able to come and talk about things you might not with anyone else, but your online discussions are still with real people going about their real life. Infact we become rather privalaged in what we learn about each other in BB that even though I know meeting someone irl life they might be different from how they come across on here, I dont take for granted what my online relationship has shared.