Hi J. I totally understand as I was there too - 1kg off being obese. I really didn't realise it, and even though I have now lost a lot of the weight I still feel the same as always - just that bit podgy. The only think I notice that changes is my perception of how skinny/heavy other people are, or photos of me. But you can lose the weight if you want to. One of the most important things to realise about changing your eating and exercise habits is that you don't have to be good all of the time. I often have all night work sessions, or celebrations and I can be really bad with my eating. But I don't let it go for too many days before I rein myself in again. I think that is the key. When you have a sick kid or something else the priority goes to that. Then you get back on the wagon. Although eating well definitely helps with the stress of other situations too. Getting into some exercise that you actually enjoy (as opposed to exercise you only do to lose weight) helps an awful lot as well as the focus is on the fun of it and not just on the results you get for your waistline.