Oh appletree... We were in a similar situation a while ago (minus having to raise kids there). We're saving to buy, too. Our rent went up twice in a year and now the price is beyond a joke.
Originally we had planned (3 years ago *rolls eyes*) to move back in with his parents, so we could save enough money for the deposit in one year. But then his parents split and are still going through the divorce (and still living in the same house!!) so we could't bare the thought of living in this poisonous environment. So we moved into this unit, which we absolutely LOVE! It is close to a river that goes down to the beach (where I walk everyday) in a beautiful, quiet suburb. But like I said, the rent went up twice in a year, so we honestly thought about moving somewhere cheaper
. It is ridiculous how much we spent on rent for a unit! So we argued. And argued. There were tears (mostly mine
). But in the end we decided that we want to live somewhere where we felt comfortable and 'at home'. You can't put a price on that. Yes, it is going to take longer to save for the house, but at least we are not unhappy whilst living 'in limbo'. Because what if something delays reaching our goal (pregnancy, losing job, needing a new car)? I sure don't wanna be stuck in a unit I hate! So to cut a long story short: we compromised! I got to keep my beautiful unit, but we wrote up a tight (!) budget, so we could still successfully save. As DF likes to say: As tight as a frogs butthole!
(apparently it's watertight...)
So yeah, some days are really hard (money wise), but all that is forgotten when I sit in my beautiful garden and walk along the beautiful river. If we manage to stick to the budget, we will reach our goal in July and can start looking for a house!
So babe, I really do hope you can sort it out! Maybe explain to him that this isn't just about the house, but about the home you have there (sorry if I sound like the guy from "The Castle"). You need to be somewhere where you can feel save (especially when you are raising a family). Plus you don't want to have to uproot your kids twice in a few years (the move to the unit and then the move to the new house). That means finding a new daycare/school twice and finding new friends twice and finding a new gym twice etc ... (you get the drift).
I really hope you can sort it out soon.![]()




Oh appletree... We were in a similar situation a while ago (minus having to raise kids there). We're saving to buy, too. Our rent went up twice in a year and now the price is beyond a joke.
) in a beautiful, quiet suburb. But like I said, the rent went up twice in a year, so we honestly thought about moving somewhere cheaper
). But in the end we decided that we want to live somewhere where we felt comfortable and 'at home'. You can't put a price on that. Yes, it is going to take longer to save for the house, but at least we are not unhappy whilst living 'in limbo'. Because what if something delays reaching our goal (pregnancy, losing job, needing a new car)? I sure don't wanna be stuck in a unit I hate! So to cut a long story short: we compromised! I got to keep my beautiful unit, but we wrote up a tight (!) budget, so we could still successfully save. As DF likes to say: As tight as a frogs butthole!
(apparently it's watertight...) 
) so back home and back into it.
I hope things look up for you, too.



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