Anyone else ashamed?

**AngelPants** · November 1st, 2012, 04:38 PM

Yes! Most people we know have seen it at its worst tho. My friends know me too well to expect more! If there isn't toys and clothes and papers every where they normally comment!

**Astrid** · November 1st, 2012, 05:02 PM

We have an old house, plus we are fond of clutter. Even if cleaned, it does not look tidy, especially the evil carpet.

I am not a fan of when someone is complimented on a lovely home, they take all the praise and then you find out later that they have a cleaner. Nothing wrong with cleaner (MIL is one), just admit to it, so the rest of us don't feel like crud for our homes

**SunnyRain** · November 1st, 2012, 05:34 PM

My friends all have pristine homes and I was at my wits end trying to understand why I'm such a failure. Then I found out they all have cleaners and I was fighting windmills.

My house isn't a tip, but it's small and there's stuff without a place to go and it's sort of dark and not very cheery plus I don't have enough chairs so I rarely invite people over. However, last year ds' party was rained out so at the last second we had to have everyone in our tiny living room. I realised that having people over is not the end of the world and it is nice to have friends so I've invited friends around a few times since then.

**HotI** · November 1st, 2012, 05:52 PM

ETA - when we were little, if we saw mum cleaning we'd ask: Who's coming round tonight?

i think my kids will say the same. i am working on decluttering but it is a work in progress.

**~Hestia~** · November 1st, 2012, 05:59 PM

I was out all day yesterday and when I came home, I honestly had a fleeting 'omg the house has been broken into' moment but sadly, that's just how I left it!

**Phteven** · November 1st, 2012, 06:02 PM

We were going away for a weekend. The house wasn't spotless and DH said "We can't leave it like this". I asked 'Why on earth not?" and DH said "What if someone breaks in? What are they going to think?"

**onthefly** · November 1st, 2012, 06:18 PM

maybe they'd be moved to clean up, then?

**Novella** · November 1st, 2012, 06:51 PM

Yep was for a while, bit better now. I make sure the beds are made, breakie dishes cleared before we get in th car to school and then I run back in and give the kids bathroom sink a wipe and check the toilet isn't festering. I can then cope with unexpected visitors

**Beautiful Disaster** · November 1st, 2012, 08:06 PM

Mine too

I hate it.

**~TT40~** · November 1st, 2012, 08:13 PM

nope, I'm not ashamed at all =) I always have a empty couch space - for someone to sit, a clean cup - for them to have a drink, the loo if not clean, isn't disgusting, and if needs be there are clean sheets and a blanket in the cupboard if they stay. everything else doesn't really matter. besides, with company like me, who cares what the place is like

**Rouge** · November 1st, 2012, 08:16 PM

Yep. And what's worse is I am a Martha Stewart at heart. So when I tell you my house is a mess even if I've tidied it up it not a game. It's the voice in my head saying YOU FILTHY PIG! HOW COULD YOU LET THEM SEE YOUR HOUSE LIKE THIS? YOU THINK THIS IS CLEAN? YOU'LL NEVER GET IT CLEAN BECAUSE YOU'VE LET IT GO TO THIS HELLISH FILTH! Yes the voice is shouty. And its probably my mother. This is my demon. I am a clean person trapped inside someone who has lost all hope of ever achieving what once was. And it kills me every day.

**luna moth** · November 1st, 2012, 08:16 PM

Yes.

And worse, a friend wanted to see me today to give me some awesome baby stuff. But I've been hardcore nesting and the place looks *amazing* for the last time possibly ever, and I made her meet me at a park so her kids wouldn't trash the place.

I'm probably more ashamed of having done that....

**boomba** · November 1st, 2012, 08:24 PM

Yup! My house is always messy.....I am in the process of throwing things out and organising a garage sale so there isn't so much junk!
Heaven has seen my house a mess she is the only person ever other than my mum to see my house how it was twice!

I too look at others houses and just don't know how they do it :-/

**Catastrophic** · November 1st, 2012, 08:26 PM

I'm that person that always excuses people for the mess. I did it yesterday.

**LuluHB** · November 1st, 2012, 08:34 PM

Yep. And what's worse is I am a Martha Stewart at heart. So when I tell you my house is a mess even if I've tidied it up it not a game. It's the voice in my head saying YOU FILTHY PIG! HOW COULD YOU LET THEM SEE YOUR HOUSE LIKE THIS? YOU THINK THIS IS CLEAN? YOU'LL NEVER GET IT CLEAN BECAUSE YOU'VE LET IT GO TO THIS HELLISH FILTH! Yes the voice is shouty. And its probably my mother. This is my demon. I am a clean person trapped inside someone who has lost all hope of ever achieving what once was. And it kills me every day.

This is me too. I hate drop ins. If anyone is coming over I will clean like a maniac and still won't be comfortable because there will be hand prints on the wall somewhere, or cobwebs on an outdoor chair. We won't even discuss the state of the garden causing me anxiety.

**Beautiful Disaster** · November 1st, 2012, 08:41 PM

I'm that person that always excuses people for the mess. I did it yesterday.

Glad you haven't visited me for a while lol

But Miss u xxx you would tell me it's a bomb anyway

**Catastrophic** · November 1st, 2012, 08:45 PM

Glad you haven't visited me for a while lol

But Miss u xxx you would tell me it's a bomb anyway

Hehe, I don't care what your house looks like, like I have told you I come to see you not your house...

If I had people visiting me tho - I rush around like mad trying to clean. That's just me tho :-)