Here's what I think she's REALLY got her knickers in a twist over.

While I was out of town, DP had a bit of 'me' time and had a little smoke. I have no issue with this.. for the record.

He left his utensils in the kitchen and the agent saw. So she thinks we're total deralicts of course. *facepalm*

So where does that leave me?

I think the mention of mess is just an overreaction and she's trying to be painful because now she's formed a negative opinion based on a tiny (not accurate of everyday life) snapshot.

Siiighhh. He never would have left his things out if he KNEW she'd decided to rock up a week earlier than agreed.

So he's been a tad naughty but she's blatantly just done what she felt like doing and barged into our home.

Where to from here?