I've just had a really shocking conversation with our real estate agent. We recently moved and were due to have an inspection about a month after moving in. No problem.

Well, they moved the date forwards, texted my phone which conveniently had died for the 3 days I was out of town attending a funeral... and came on over on the new date I had no idea about.

Apparently the place is disgusting, and she's coming back in 7 days to re-inspect. I have never, ever in 11 years had an agent say my house was anything other than immaculate. Ok since I had kids I don't get 'immaculate' anymore but they always comment that everything is fine and there's never an issue.

I know there were toys strewn around the floor, and crumbs on my rugs from breakfast... the highchair probably had leftovers smeared on it as we're very busy in the mornings. I have baskets of clean but unfolded laundry and unsnapped mcns..... but nothing dirty or damaged. It's just a regular busy household with two small children who have JUST moved and whose main housekeeper hasn't been home to maintain the usual state of order.

She even commented that she was concerned about the state of the property as we were given such a nice one, and we have children in the house. As if the state of minor chaos is cause to intimidate me by mentioning my children?

I'm just sitting here. Stunned. Feeling paranoid and really down. I feel totally judged and just like I'm a terrible parent and person in general. Things have been so sucky lately and one crisis isn't ending before the next begins lately.