What stands out from reading this post is none of you mention what your DP/H does. Please, please, please tell me he does his fair share of housework!! After all, it's not the 1950s!!!!
DP is in charge of keeping his computer room clean, mowing the lawns. He does the vacuuming when i ask and cleans the oven. But because he is at work more than me i do everything else when im home.