blizz,
that is so great that your DH and DD are so bonded. I think going through everything a couple has to, to get a child conceived through a donor, will help make the bond stronger. the child will never be taken for granted. I am sure this will happen for you and DH Gargy. That TV shows sounds really interesting.
also, in the case of donor eggs and donor embies there are some articles written about "epigenetics" which is about how the carrying of the child in the womb influences the characteristics of a child.