Hi Blossom
Hugs from me too. DH and I found ourselves in exactly the same position back in 2006. We were totally devastated by the news - I wont get into it but both DH and I hit extreme lows and it took us a while to pick ourselves up again. But let me reassure you that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Once we had come to terms with the news (well sort of), we looked into what our options were. We decided to ask DH's brother to donate. Our thinking at the time was that if DH could not have a biological child, using his brother's sperm would at least pass on some of my DH's DNA (and therefore looks, and perhaps personality traits). I guess at the heart of it, we secretly thought we would be able to pretend that the child was DH's.

DH's brother agreed to donate but this did not eventuate (a whole drama in itself) because of various issues such as going through a custody battle with his ex partner and meeting a new partner. Anyway, we then decided to use an unknown local donor through the fertility clinic. We did not have any info about this donor other than his blood type, hair/eye colour, general interests and reasons for donating. We had one fresh and two FETs with this donor. They did not work.

Next, we decided to go with an overseas donor (via the fertility clinic). We went through Xytex Corporation in the US. We found this a much more informed process (albeit pricey - it costs us approx $500 AUS to import a vial as opposed to $200 to use a local donor)- best of all we had a photo (child and adult) of the donor that we selected. We were able to match someone with DH's physical features. Anyway, to cut a long story short, we were successful first time around with this donor.

All our phobias about the child not being DH's biological child have gone. Our child is the child that we were always meant to have. He is perfect in every way. Had it not been for this painful journey, we would never have met him.

Good luck hun, and congratulations on your 6 frosties. I am sure it wont be long before you are holding your own bubba in your arms.

xVenus