Has anyone used a sperm donor?

[toomanyshoes]

I havent done this myself, but a girlfriend has... *warning, it does seem strange*

They had spent $48,000 and 9 years on IVF, as hubby has no sperm count, she however if complety normal in the ovary/egg depatment.

So as a last attempt, and very broke, they found a guy online. They flew to melbourne day before O was meant, met him, had full checks done, and the next day he gave his "sample". Back at the motel hubby used a big syringe type thing,(with no needle) and inserted the sperm up near the cervix. She elevated for a while.

In utter shock, she found herself pregnant!! And has a baby girl, 18mnths old..... AND just went back to the same guy, and pregnant again!!! So IVF failed for 9 years, and home insemination worked 2 out of 2!!!

Not sure if its for you, but thought I would share... xoxoxo

Gotta do whatcha gotta do hehehehe

[Pretty Butterfly]

Thats what I said to her, If it works, and gives you such a beautiful little girl, go for it!! And here she is with #2 coming, its just wonderful!!

[puffsgirl11]

I am currently going through the process of looking for a donor. I have found a potential donor off a website, where I placed an ad seeking a donor.
I am going down the known donor route, as the IVF clinic I go through will only use the sperm of a known donor. I have 18 eggs on ice from a cancelled cycle, so ideally I wanted them to be used and not wasted.

DH and I first had a counselling session at the IVF clinic to make sure that we were ready to use a donor and the counsellor gave us some great ideas of where to look for a potential donor.

We were very lucky in that we had some people interested in donating to us just 2 days after placing the ad, although we have had some weirdo's offer to donate as well.

I hope everything goes well for you and that you find a donor soon.

PM me if you need anymore details.

[robyn123123]

Hi puffsgirl11

Thanks for your reply.

I just tried to pm you but it said you aren't set up to receive messages.

Could I email you?

[puffsgirl11]

robyn,

Sorry I didn't get back to you earlier, I have been away.
You should try to advertise for a sperm donor on the web. This is where I found my donor. There are alot of guys on there who don't want to co parent but are happy to be known donors or anon donors.

I hope everything goes well for you.
Let me know if you need any other details.

[dreamrise659]

Hi all,

I am now pregnant through anon donor sperm through my local clinic (4th IVF attempt). However I did donor insemination for 13 months prior to starting on IVF. I found the donor I used for that through placing an add on the Internet (unfortunately the site I used has since been closed down). I got to know him for 6 months before starting inseminations (did it the same way as Pretty Butterfly's friend). It didn't work for me, however one of my friends got pregnant with him on her first attempt and he has helped three other women who all got pregnant on 2nd or 3rd attempts.

It took me 18 months of searching to find that donor (plus the 6months to get to know him so 2 years all up before my first attempt). However I was fussy - after all the child will have half the donors genes. I also wanted to know that the donor was someone I could trust to not try to go for contact visits etc and of course since some STD's don't show up for 6 months you need to be able to believe them that they haven't engaged in any risky behaviour etc for at least the 6 months prior to that test (or since it). You also get a lot of idiots answer the adds so you need to be patient sifting through them. I do know some women who have inseminated with the first guy to answer their add only a couple of days after their add and have fallen pregnant and had no legal or medical problems - but I just didn't want to risk it.

Good luck
Lori

[Mejane]

hiya,

I have and have never had a problem with it. The donor needs to be the 'right' kind of person and the level of trust is always paramount. If I get any dodgy offers from guys wanting to 'do it' naturally I send them packing!

I also don't believe that it is my responsibility to pay for flights and things to get the donor to me because the money spent on air fairs- I would spend at a clinic!

As far as the Law goes, even if you have something down on paper- it still means diddly squat, because legally- a man who has not produced offspring any way other than naturally is not entitled to any rights over the child-nor is she entitled to anything from him for the child. Thats just the way it is, Reese Whitherspoon in Legally Blonds 'reckless abandonment' argument or not!- sorry couldn't help myself there!! LOL

cheers

MJ