Hi all,

I am now pregnant through anon donor sperm through my local clinic (4th IVF attempt). However I did donor insemination for 13 months prior to starting on IVF. I found the donor I used for that through placing an add on the Internet (unfortunately the site I used has since been closed down). I got to know him for 6 months before starting inseminations (did it the same way as Pretty Butterfly's friend). It didn't work for me, however one of my friends got pregnant with him on her first attempt and he has helped three other women who all got pregnant on 2nd or 3rd attempts.

It took me 18 months of searching to find that donor (plus the 6months to get to know him so 2 years all up before my first attempt). However I was fussy - after all the child will have half the donors genes. I also wanted to know that the donor was someone I could trust to not try to go for contact visits etc and of course since some STD's don't show up for 6 months you need to be able to believe them that they haven't engaged in any risky behaviour etc for at least the 6 months prior to that test (or since it). You also get a lot of idiots answer the adds so you need to be patient sifting through them. I do know some women who have inseminated with the first guy to answer their add only a couple of days after their add and have fallen pregnant and had no legal or medical problems - but I just didn't want to risk it.

Good luck
Lori