Chrispe, Tanstar & the others that noted my post Thank you xox

Tanstar - Each week I had been popping my head in to his class room in the morning or afternoon every other day, if I hadn't the chance to do that I usually would flag his teacher down in the playground. If I had not seen her, I had regular catch ups with his aide or support/case manager. He has an IEP, he has aide time. Problem was I was being fed the positives. "He had a good day", "He did really well completing this task". But his teacher was a little less positive but I wasn't reading into it the way I should have. She would tell me he had a ok day or that he had been unsettled or had spent some time in the support unit etc. But at no point did I think I would get to the end of the term & be given the talk that we got.
She was negative about everything. Even school camp.. Evan has issues with sleep. I had expressed my concerns about him sleeping away from home & while his support/aide teachers where positive & encouraging that he at least try 1 night. His class teacher just went on about how disruptive it would be for the other students & that they are planning to have students & teachers in different cabins so there would be no one for him at 3am.
We did not send him to camp for the full event. We drove him down for the middle (main) day, Dh stayed with him & then drove him home early evening (they got home around 7). DH said that his old teacher (as he had changed classes by this point) was horrible. Narky & aggressive in her tone with the kids, had asked for Evans Father to be called to come up (he was trying to give Evan space so he would not cling to him all day) as he was being a distraction. Yet when Simon came (and had actually been watching for afar) he said Evan wasn't doing anything out of the ordinary & was just doing the same as everyone else. IN fact when completing a rope activity he was the only one to go back & help his team mates & lead his team to win the activity through his leadership (need to take control) & several other teachers commented to DH about how well he did.
Back to the topic.. So I think what happened was I was being fed the "what parents want to hear" stuff when really the teacher was fed up from the start. He didn't conform to her way, she wasn't willing to make changes that woudl improve things for him so I took action & had him removed from her class. I mean seriously.. the women sat him next to the door, light switches AND the class BIRD. Then complained he gets up & leaves the room all the time, he flicks the switches all the time & wont leave the bird alone. But then said she has him there when I suggested she move him to the other side of the room away from the bird (I had already taken in visuals to help him realise he was not allowed to touch) because that way he is not wandering through the class room to leave. BLAH anyway..

Chrispe - Small schools.. Im sure there are lovely ones out there BUT we did exactly that to begin with. We moved from western Sydney up to the blue mountains with the main reason being we felt Evan would do better in a small school. When we started the school had 90 kids. We were at the school until the end of yr 2. I had my concerns about his progress & development but was always told he was doing well. He is ok. He is a nice boy. But when i really drilled my concern they got defensive. We moved to QLD & sussing out the schools in the region we enrolled the kids in a school that has 1800 kids P-12 (about 700 on the junior campus). Its a massive school. They have more teachers then the old school had students! With in the month both boys teachers came to me with their concerns. Evan was in grade 3 & did not understand the concept of odds & evens! We had no idea he was that behind, the old school had told us all along he was doing fine, was at the expected level etc. We knew they were struggling but had no idea how badly. Everyone said going from NSW to QLD we would find the boys would probably be a little ahead as QLD curriculum was about 6 months behind NSW. But the reality was, they were about 6 months or so behind the QLD standards. So *that* small school turned me away from that as an option.

New strategies are in place now, I have since spoken with the HOSE & also the regional HOSE so hopefully we can start seeing some improvements with school but I have a long schooling life ahead of me with these kids. I don't recall signing up for this part when i had kids! LOL